No, that’s not how it works. You don’t decide the fate of your relationship based on one date when you have a kid together and another on the way. You go on many dates. You start carving out time for each other. You hire a cleaning lady to come clean your home once or twice a month to free up personal time. You choose one night a week to go out just the two of you and you either hire a sitter, ask your parents to sit for free or do some babysitting trading with other friends who have kids. You go to counseling. You learn to communicate. You tell each other what you like about one another. You tell each other what you need and you try hard to meet one another’s needs.
And if all that doesn’t work, you kick your boyfriend out because any man who would tell his pregnant wife to “move out for a couple of weeks to see if he missed her” doesn’t deserve the luxury of staying put. You kick him out and you sue him for custody of the kids and child support. That’s how you do it.
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