“My Boyfriend Has Us Paying Rent for an Unfinished House”

My boyfriend, “Bruce,” and I have been together for three years now and living together for about a year. We live in a town that is about 45 minutes away from both our jobs. I want to move out so we can be closer to where we work, but Bruce doesn’t want to because we rent from his dad and he doesn’t want to set him off. We have no lease with his dad, and we’ve been paying rent in a home that is unfinished (as in, a good 1/3 of the house doesn’t have any flooring installed, no baseboards are down, etc). There are cheaper options closer to our jobs and we would be saving thousands of miles on our vehicle that we are leasing if we moved. What should I do about this? — Ready to Move

 

Find a place that you can afford by yourself and present it as an option to Bruce for a place you both move into together. If he continues to reject the idea of moving (which he will), sign the lease by yourself, pack up your shit, and move on your own (the beauty of having no lease where you live now is that you can leave whenever you want with no penalty). The money you save in gas can go toward leasing a car for yourself instead of sharing one with Daddy Boy Bruce, and the time you save in commuting to and from work can be spent enjoying a home with full flooring (because it’s the little things…).

My husband and I have been together for ten years and a mutual guy friend of ours has been around for the majority of that time. As I was showing him a picture on my phone recently, he by accident saw a revealing picture that I took for my husband. He told me I looked good because I’ve lost like 60 lbs. Later, he told me I looked hot in the photo and he had to go sit down after seeing it. He also said that, since I have his number, I could send him the photo (not happening). Do you think he thinks about that photo? Or thinks about my body? — Revealing Photo Fail


Uh, duh. I hope if you haven’t already, you’ll delete the revealing photo from your phone. I’d also suggest losing this guy’s number and explaining to your husband you are uncomfortable remaining friends with him since he has a clear lack of respect of personal boundaries. (For the record, the appropriate response to seeing a photo he should not have seen would be to never speak of it again, NOT to ask you to send more to his personal number).

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