Reply To: I cannot tell if this is a green flag or the reddest flag ever.

If a guy is alerting the public that he has treated women terribly, although that’s great and shows awareness, he’s probably not ready to be in a healthy relationship either. Imagine having to unpack every single argument/conversation with him. Exhausting. I have also seen a lot of guys like this just spend a lot of time talking and gaslighting and manipulating. He’s woke to women’s struggles, sure, but he has to advertise it to your book club? Is he doing it for clout or because he actually wants to be better? It does sound like he was pandering to you. And if he got a wake up call about his bad behavior with women- think of how bad that behavior could have been, most women put up with a torrential downpour of shit before they cut their ties. I hate how men pretend women require specific behaviors- when anyone treating anyone badly, period, is a red flag.

Did he say he doesn’t trust women? Or didn’t? Red flag.