DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Thanks guys! I was kind of overdressed because I planned for one venue then they changed it and most people decided to wear jeans. If I’m going to bother going to the club, I’m dressing up.
@MissDre I just tell myself those guys that you seem to spark with but nothing happens either got back together with their ex or were thinking of cheating on their gf but had second thoughts. I mean it could very well be they just didn’t think we’d click, but I prefer my method.Plus connection online/through text doesn’t always translate well. The guy my parents tried to set me up with was fun to text, but it didn’t carry over well in person. FWB isn’t super into texting, but in person we have a good connection. My other regular hookups don’t text much either. In fact, I think for me the better the in-person connection, the less stimulating the texting is.
I want to get back into ballet. I’ve done beginner level classes on and off for the past couple of years, but I need to find a new studio. I loved my previous one but they discontinued the class unexpectedly due to budget concerns. I wish I could find a weekend class. I hate going to and from classes at night time.
So my date with Pilot guy went really well! He is really handsome, more than the online pics show. We had a good conversation about our outdoor adventures, and some of the crazy stories he had from his piloting days in northern Ontario. He works right now for a freighting company where he flies various cargo to and from Brussels in Belgium. Anyways, we had a good talk and I suggested getting together when he gets back from his week trip from Winnipeg and he seemed enthusiastic to. But I am leaving it in his court to reach out when he gets back.
I had my 4th date with Slogan guy today, stayed overnight to make it easier to go to rock climbing in the morning. Ended up having a really good nights sleep which is rare in a new guys bed. Then we did an hour of rock climbing which was cool and fun to revisit, but Slogan guy had never done it before, so he seemed to enjoy it. Then we went to brunch and back to his place till 5 where we hung out and got distracted 😉 Overall a fun night!
Ya…I may have gone a little overboard on the first dates. I have this mindset of ‘oh he looks nice! *Message* He does too! *Message*” x3 Wouldn’t recommend it, the first two weeks are hectic haha But I have also weeded out several guys, and it took me a while to get guys to message me back, let alone find one that was worth responding too. I have had several messages recently where they just say ‘hottie,’ ‘cute’ or something minimal.
Seriously… I’m jealous that you even have that option. I’ve been on a few different sites and I only see somebody cute maybe like once ever second or third month.
Sounds like a fun weekend @Cleopatra. Are you just looking for a FWB thing or something more?
And @MissDre, it comes in waves I think. I have times where I swear there’s no men. Then times where men are everywhere. As cliche as it sounds, I feel like the less I look, the more they’re out there. But of course I’ve been sleeping with a coworker on and off for two years when I just absolutely need to get laid haha.
Lately I’ve just been a bitch to guys (well by “why men love bitches” standards), and they like it. It’s so weird to me since I’m typically a doormat, but the response has been positive. So again, I recommend the book to anyone who has issues standing up for themselves. I downloaded a free pdf online.
I’ve read that book and I really didn’t like it. It’s just so… not me. Not authentic for me. I don’t want to play games, I just want to be myself. That being said… I completely agree that when you act overly interested, it turns people off. That, I think, is something I need to work on. And for that reason… I deleted that guy’s phone number 🙂
I’m not into playing games either. I disregarded the stuff about intentionally being a bad cook and that sort of thing. But the charts that said “when you say this, it comes across as this” and such were helpful to me. Plus the advice to have hobbies and interests to make yourself unavailable instead of pretending to be unavailable. I’ve found myself bending over backwards less, and it’s just helped me improve my relationship with myself (which has improved how I interact with guys I’m dating).
So in April I have a 5-day long date with…LA! I just booked an Airbnb and soon will get my plane tickets. To be honest I don’t know if I’ll even see the Salesman while I’m there – long story, though he said he has put me in his calendar he’s gone pretty silent on me – but whatever. I have a date with myself and the city I may want to move to! 😀
(Plus I have a friend there too so I won’t be totally alone.)
It’s really taken the pressure off dating because I’m pretty sure I’m not going to find a life partner here in NC, so now all my focus can be on getting there and pursuing my dreams of being a screenwriter for a network TV show! If I were going to find someone now he would literally have to drop into my lap because I’m not looking at all.
Although best of luck with everyone else in their dating!
@LadyE oooh! LA! Hope you have fun and the weather is nice 🙂
@MissDre well I guess it depends of people’s preferences. There are a lot of guys out there, but it’s who you like and find attractive. Probably doesn’t help that half of them don’t bother to fill in their profile or give enough info to go off of. That is my experience at least. Took me a while to scroll through pages of profiles before I found a few I liked. Took some chances on a few as well that I normally wouldn’t have gone for, maybe try that?
@kare I am dating to see what is out there short term. I have some things that need to sort them selves out first job wise before I can commit to a relationship that is serious and long term. But figured I have time, I am interested in dating a bit, so why not?
@Cleopatra_30 Yeah, unfortunately my city is pretty white. So I go on POF for example and try to search Men, age 28-38, Black, Indian, Hispanic, Middle Eastern and it comes back saying “we’re sorry, there aren’t enough people to show you! try expanding your search!”
Tinder has more options, but the quality of dates/interactions on Tinder is shit. Soooo I’m just chillin for now, and hopefully I’ll eventually meet somebody within my circle of friends.
