DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I was going on a first date on wednesday with the guy I posted here earlier from Tinder, but I cancelled. Dude started behaving really weird. First he texted me to confirm place and time with some serious spelling mistakes. He had never texted like that. Then he told me he had an appointment for a class at my old box. When I mentioned I don’t go there anymore he was surprised… I told him that when we first started talking.
Then he texted me a pic from the box, which featured my ex boyfriend front and center. (I added him on Facebook two weeks ago and he saw all my pics, including old ones with my ex. He then proceeded to ask me if I had a boyfriend. I told him no and he kept asking about it).
When he texted the pic I told him well, that’s my ex right there. I’m sure that’s what he wanted to hear. Then he told me “well, your ex is a dick”. He used a much harsher word but I dont’ know how to translate it. I let it slide and asked how was the class. He proceeded to tell me how shitty my box was and how he had hated it. So I told him that I didn’t want to go out. He kind of begged and just ended up blocking him. Weird dude.
Whoa! Creeping through your Facebook, going to your old gym, finding your ex and texting you a picture of him, that’s… special.
Not that it changes this guy being a real weirdo, but I wouldn’t friend anyone on social media until we were in a relationship. It’s just too possible, and too tempting, to look through someone’s stuff and form opinions about them. I think you would have figured out anyway that this guy is seriously weird, without having exposed your private life and history to him.
PS, clearly his motivation is he’s an insecure jealous weirdo, and the pics of your ex – who’s probably cuter than him – made him uncomfortable enough to want to go and physically check out the situation and assess the threat.
Now I know that, don’t add someone on FB until you know them well… However, I wanted to see what he looked like better, before going on a date. When he added me on FB I looked through a couple of pictures just to get an idea. Bad move, and won’t do it again.
Rookie mistake, I know. Online dating is hard. After I started talking to this guy on Tinder I deleted the app. I have no desire to use it again, at least for now.
OMG! That’s super creepy. Don’t add anyone on Facebook and try not to give out any identifying information about yourself until you know who they are. I think the odds of something like this happening are low, but I wouldn’t want a potential date to know a place I frequent (gym included). This proves that there ARE some weirdos who will just show up there. He may be creepy but overall harmless, but I wouldn’t want to cross paths with someone who is creepy with “off” motives, whatever they may be.
So I said I was going to take an online dating break, but haven’t quite gotten there. I got a message from a seemingly normal guy on Tinder a couple days ago, asking me where I grew up and where I live. When I looked at his location, I saw he was 200+ miles away, so I answered with my city and asked where he is. He responded to tell me that he was ACTUALLY asking which NEIGHBORHOOD I’m in, not city, and by the way, he’d ALSO asked me where I grew up and I hadn’t answered that! (Then he told me he’s moving to my city literally today and how excited he is, blah, blah blah.) I thought correcting me was weird and almost said something about it to him, but unmatched him instead.
@Copa wtf? Listen, if you ever make a trek to Mid Missouri, let me know because there are TONS of dogs around here that need homes and good shelters that would find you one that’s perfect for you. All of my animals are local rescues.
I dunno, not friending someone until you’re fully in a relationship seems a bit extreme. I definitely wouldn’t friend someone right off Tinder, but if I had been seeing someone for a few weeks and they didn’t want to connect on social media I might find that strange. Like they were hiding something.
