Talking to a married man, am I wrong?
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I don’t have an exact definition for an emotional affair so maybe thats what this is? I’m not sure. I really thought that all this was fine since his marriage is open. I still talk about the guy I have feelings for and he offers advice so that too made me think it was harmless.
he’s never asked me for pictures, and he’s never sent me any sexual pics. I do agree that him telling me about those intimate things isn’t right and I don’t particularly like it. I’ve never insinuated or told him to leave her, i even suggested he go to couples therapy. theres never been any kind of conversation about meeting up or anything like that. i don’t know what i want really, i just like talking to him. I would never want to be his mistress or side piece, i would feel like shit about myself.
IF you feel like shit about yourself why are you validating this and even asking what to do. If you are old enough to talk to a married man you are old enough to know what to do. I am sorry but this is ridiculous. It sounds to me like you just want validation of some sort. Not going to get it here.
Of course it’s an emotional affair. He’s spending all this time chatting with you that he’s not spending on his marriage. He’s sharing intimate details about his wife and marriage. He’s talking about all kinds of “deep” and personal stuff with a *stranger* online. You should back way off, if you don’t want to just abruptly cut off contact, and stop this. It’s wrong.
I don’t feel like shit about myself because our conversations haven’t been flirty or anything like that and from what he’s told me his marriage is open. If our conversations had ever been like that i definitely would. look, I’m most likely going to stop talking to him, to play it safe. I truly didn’t think it was a big deal (until recently) based off our conversations.
You’re probably young and never been married, right? But yeah, a married man acting like this is BS. And be careful about men who tell you they’re in an open marriage. It’s possible, sure, but only like 15% of marriages have an agreement that allows extramarital sex.
No, I don’t feel like shit. If he’s the one cheating he should feel like shit. My intentions have been completely innocent. I’ve never said for him to leave his wife, i’ve never flirted with him, and i’ve never insinuated meeting up. As of right now i don’t have a reason to feel like shit about myself.
You’re right, I’ve never been married. I know open marriage is not common, and really the only reason i believe him is because of how in detail we went about the topic and their marriage and the rules they’ve set up. He’s talked about not wanting another relationship, that he really just opens it up to connecting with other people.
Oh I misread you would feel like shit. Well, you shouldn’t feel like shit for believing his BS but you should for continuing to validate it and buy it.
but the same way I don’t know if he’s telling the truth is the same way I don’t know if he’s lying. I don’t want to just assume that he’s been lying to me about everything, cut off communication and look crazy for not believing him. I understand that you would be upset if your husband was doing this, but thats because your marriage isn’t open I’m assuming. The way he’s talked about his marriage so far has lead me to believe that it’s not a big deal, but who knows.
