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@Ale What.an.asshole. Ignore him and his jealous you got to take vacation self.
@veritek33 – Wow, you have a great man there. That’s wonderful that he took care of all of you. I’m very happy for you!Got a message from my AG..he might get to come home sooner than he thought and wants to see me as soon as possible. We chatted every day he’s been gone but hearing that he’s coming back soon? Got butterflies in my stomach and a smile on my face. Dont know what to make of this so for right now I’m just enjoying the ride.
So I cooked for my alpha geek yesterday. He’s been working on a huge project and has been surviving on takeout, but made time to spend with me when he should have been sleeping. I brought dinner with me. I had no idea what to cook because he gave me no hints other than: won’t eat anything with antennas. So decided to go with the classics. Grilled tri tip, mashed potatoes, garlic parmesan roasted green beans. Oh, and chocolate baby bundt cakes for desert because I love that pan. He seemed to like it, and the date went well.
For me cooking for someone is a big deal. I guess it is for him too because we had the “dont want to see other people” convo. His was more: “This is where I’m at, but I’m ok if you are not there, especially since I’ll be traveling for work for the next month”. The truth is, I havent been interested in seeing anyone else since our 2nd or 3rd date, so I just…haven’t. It’s just official now.
@veritek33 ..You probably already made a decision but I do love the first one too. Thanks for letting us vicariously shop!
@Copa WTH. Why would he go flakey on a neighbor? That’s super immature of him. I’m so so sorry he did that to you. But Drunk Copa sounds pretty damn awesome…said some things you needed to say and he sure as hell needed to hear. And I really hate the dick/naked pic guys. If you havent seen it in real life and expressed a desire for pics whyever would they think its ok?
My update – had a date with the AG from bumble again on Friday. Been seeing each other regularly. We were supposed to go to get sushi (sugarfish for the CA people) and …kinda never made it out the door. We both knew it was coming and had had the “I’ve been tested since my last relationship, I’m clean and on birth control but you’re going to want to stock up on condoms or its going to be a firm no” sort of talk already. Several hours later, we ordered delivery from the same place. We’re going out to dinner – and actually making it to the restaurant – later on in the week.
@veritek33 Black would be ok for a wedding I think. The big question is…where is the wedding? If it’s Florida for example, those long sleeves will make you melt.
I’d love to see a pic of the dress too, mainly because I’m always curious about stuff like that.
@ladye The constant cuckholding talk would have been a deal killer for me too. Mainly because any guy who is that into their kink 2 hours into chatting isnt looking for the same thing I am. Even if we shared the same kink and I was just looking for a hookup, he had no idea what I wanted when he started going on about it. I’d be concerned that he’s going to be selfish and unconcerned with my pleasure and just find someone more compatible.
Oh yes, the weird “hi beautiful” guys. Hard to start a convo based off of that. I always assume the guy’s doing a whole lot of cut and paste type messages to every woman who meets his idea of attractive and ignore those.
I have a full body pic on my match profile that was taken in my bedroom. One guy just started talking on and on about my bed – and what he wanted to do there. Keep in mind he’d never even heard my voice at this point and had gotten a whole one reply from me. Creepy as heck. I blocked him and was mentioning it as a weird story to a friend who went…was his name (guy’s name). I showed her his profile pic and she starts going oh! He’s an *insert long string of 4 letter words here*. Turns out they used to work together and yeap, dude is just as bad in real life. Talk about a bullet dodged.
Meanwhile in happier news I’ve been texting on and off all day with the guy from bumble that I met in real life yesterday. He said something that tweaked my memory so I went and looked at some git commits. Had a geek girl swooning moment cause it turns out he developed some of the tools I use daily. He’s so humble he didn’t even mention he wrote the tool when I was talking about how much time this particular thing saved me today. A serious Alpha Geek. The nice thing is he’s fun to talk to about non geek stuff as well – books and music plus a good sense of humor. I’m enjoying the heck out of meeting him.
Today I had coffee with the guy from Bumble. Was supposed to be a 30 minute deal, ended up being 3 hours. The time just flew by. We work in similar industries – both IT geeks but different types – so he gets my weird sense of humor when I make programming jokes. Even if nothing else happens I’m happy to have met someone I could see relaxing and chatting with after work. A good way to end an off week.
I went on a date with someone from match tonight. I wasn’t terribly sure about the chemistry on my side but we had a lot in common and conversation flowed. And then he said it…he’s a Trump supporter. Ugh. Kinda wish he’d put that on his profile to begin with; would have saved us both some time.
I’m having coffee with someone from Bumble tomorrow. First time I’ve actually met someone in person from that app. Ive had the same “conversation just peters out cause it seems like they don’t make an effort” experience everyone else has with Bumble in the week I’ve had it installed. Been considering just deleting that one. Right now I’m only on those two apps. Not sure which one to try if I dump Bumble.
So I just recently had to block a very cute guy I’d met because he called me drunk – THREE times in one day before noon while I was at work. Kinda funny in retrospect – he was a very lovey sort of drunk but damn.
The amount of crazy out there is really startling. All I’m looking for right now is a nice guy in my age range who has his life together, makes me laugh, and doesn’t freak out if I make more money than he does. Sadly hard to find even in a big metro area like LA!
Had a nice walk on the beach and breakfast date this am. We met online a while ago and just hang out.can talk about anything or nothing at all. Guy is really nice, fun, and I just feel relaxed around him. Turns out he’s a great kisser too. After the one last week who was crazy pressuring me, this is a nice change of pace. I’m looking forward to seeing him again.
@JadeSG – I am so sorry you are going through that breakup and heartache. I applaud your strength though. You know what you need and that he just wasn’t willing to put in the effort to keep what you two had. That sucks. But being alone is better than being alone while in a relationship with someone who just doesn’t value you or the relationship.
My dating update =
I had a meetup-turned into a first date last night that went really well! A guy I met through an online dating app. We’d talked a lot, and decided we’d just meet up as friends because we clicked that way. He’s just really comfortable to talk to and makes me laugh. Physically he’s not the type I normally go for – he’s a freaking foot taller than me even when I was wearing my work heels. I normally date guys who are a few inches shy of 6 ft or shorter. (I’m 5’3″ on a good day) So any more than that and I feel pocket sized to some fricken giant guy.Well, when we met there was something more there. Surprised the hell out of me. I went into the night expecting to have a fun time with a buddy and left with the thought that maybe there could be something more. We’re going to see each other again.
