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That’s why I’m not on any dating apps. I’m nowhere near ready for a relationship. Oddly enough, I’m not even ready to have sex with someone new. I feel like I don’t even want people looking at me. I was on tinder a couple months ago and that’s when I decided all of this. And also my wonderful therapist has helped me put some things in perspective.
@Copa I am not actively dating right now, I’m not on any dating app. But I thought this guy deserved a chance, maybe. So I asked him out. Anyways.
@Copa yeah that kind of sucks… Same thing happens to me when I see my ex at work and remember good times.
So, I posted here about my ex professor from grad school that I asked out. He came back from Chicago and we never went out but he kept sending me memes and asking me how I was, but conversation was always two-three messages top. I asked him out again last Saturday, because my friends and I were celebrating a birthday that day (some of my friends are mutual friends with him). He said that he was definitely going then never showed up.
Then on Sunday… Around 6 pm he texted me asking me what I was doing. Then he said “nevermind, I just want to fuck”. So, this dude that almost never talks to me started telling me how he was drunk and horny and thought of me but that he knew I deserved better than that but if I still wanted to do it I could come over.
So, seemed promising, great on paper but he fucked up.I think that would be bad, yes. We see each other at work a couple times a week, we chat, so he could have just asked me for my number. I think it’s an invasion of privacy to ask someone for a phone number without your consent. I’m 99% sure he looked for it in my file though which is worse
Yes, @alafair that was too much.
I recently had to block someone too.Turns out, at work, sometimes they send people over from other departments to help us with the high work load. They had been sending this guy who was funny, charming, not bad looking. During work we had a lot to talk about, he even brought me tea one day and I brought him tea the next day.
Well, then one day he texts me out of nowhere. Turns out I never gave him my number. He asked around or, what’s worse, looked for it in my file (he works at HR). Can you believe this? I just blocked him, and haven’t seen him since.
And all of these lead to a crying crisis over the fact that this made me think of the guys that I keep attracting and why do guys think they can do this sort of thing and I’ll never find anyone decent.https://www.vogue.com/article/lena-dunham-break-up-vogue-june-2018
I don’t like Lena Dunham but I really liked that read.
I had an ex that had some psycho moments too. More like stalkerish. He would show up randomly where I was, he once saw me get on a bus and chased the bus for half an hour then parked the car and followed me on foot, I had to call my dad that time. I was petrified. Being stalked is horrible.
I think Lorna from OITNB also tried to kill her “boyfriend’s” girlfriend right?
And also, how does one get to send 65,000 texts without being blocked after text #1000?
@JD I think he’s kidding.
Also, LW, you need therapy. You need to know why all of this happened. But you’re not alone, people do crazy things, we are all human and sometimes we let our emotions control us. That’s what needs to be addressed in therapy.
I had a couple psycho moments after my last breakup and also one drama moment (like crying and fighting in a public place) the day we broke up. Mostly dur to anxiety during post breakup times when we got back together briefly, like very anxious, blowing up his phone with texts and calls, going to his house (never made it though, always turned around before). After we ended things for good, I never had anxiety or depressive thoughts again, never again thought about killing myself or dissapearing from the face of the earth like I used to. He brought up the worst on me. I behaved the worst, like a crazy person when I was with him. It’s sad to end things, and you feel guilty. I feel guilty because he has an image of me I’ll never get over, he thinks I’m crazy and couldn’t handle breaking up well. I have no defense, I was the worst, mostly because he shunned me, never responded my texts or calls, never wanted to discuss any issue, he basically ignored me during conflict. It had to end. It’s hard, tough, weird, whatever you name it but it’s over, this is not a healthy relationship.
Mmm. I am decent. I guess.
@Fyodor it happened to me actually.
I had a boyfriend for two months before finding out his ex was pregnant. We ended things because “my boyfriend was having a baby with another woman”. Lol.
