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This is not a situation to fight for love.
Fight for your career right now. Go out, make friends, party.
Be GLAD you are dodging a humongous bullet.

@Veritek I don’t mean to be a creep but I’m so happy for you. Like genuinely happy you’re doing so good.
My therapy session yesterday lasted four hours! Four hours talking that felt like five minutes.

I am desperate too sometimes you know. I feel like I’m a loser, I’ll never meet anyone, I’ll end up alone, I wasted my time on a dead end relationship, I feel old and like my time is up and other things I’ve posted here before. The thing with being desperate is, be elegant about it. “Being elegant” about things is one of the mantras my therapist lives by, and he shows it to everyone. Being elegant means, don’t show it. Like I was mad the other day because my ex keeps bugging me, well I was elegant, he wanted to bug me, I didn’t let him. My initial reaction was tell him to eat shit but by not saying anything he knows I’m not bothered. I don’t know if all of this makes sense.
You can be desperate, most people are, I am. Just don’t let that tell the course of your actions. Definitely learn how to manage your expectations.
I am person who looks good on paper, I am fit, people tell me I’m good looking. My Tinder profile has pics of me traveling, doing fun stuff, working out. I get a lot of matches and messages when I start swiping. And I’ve had people message me that seem really eager to meet me, I mean, they are like let’s go out now, you seem awesome, etc, I don’t respond to those messages, because I feel like they’re putting a lot of pressure on me. I’m not perfect, and they think I am a match just by what they saw there. It’s not fair. It’s a lot of pressure and shows me that either they’re new to this or are terrible at managing expectations. There are ways that show interest without being intense. We need to learn those, especially in online dating

Maybe I ask because I have never seen someone look so interesting that I want to pursue them outside of the dating app, at least on Tinder.
I have been on Tinder since last Sunday (third time I download it), and there’s nobody interesting. I have talked to a bunch of guys, get a lot of matches, but nothing else.

Ys, this hurts you proffessionally. Do not overshare at work. As someone who had a long relationship with a coworker, and even a year after it finished, people STILL TALK.
I went to my first session with a new therapist yesterday. IT WENT SO WELL, I’m so happy I finally found a good one.

Don’t email him. I mean, is he really taking a break if he puts his instagram handle there? I don’t know, it seems weird. But like Wendy said, emailing him is a bit much.