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I asked someone on a date on Saturday. It’s a professor I had in grad school, he’s 41 and I’m 32. When I was in my first choice of grad school (I then changed it) he taught me a seminar, he had just finished his PhD. After the seminar was over he asked me out once, like causally, to hang out with his friends, but I wasn’t available. A couple weeks ago I went to a concert with a couple friends, and one of my friends invited him and he was there, they are now coworkers. This is about five years after we met. After the concert he started talking to me via Facebook (we have been facebook friends since he was my professor). Asked me out once but I was at the beach.
Then on saturday I asked if he wanted to meet up to go see a movie, he said “I’m actually in Chicago right now but talk to you later”. Didn’t set a date or anything. And the conversation stopped there. What do you think?@DancingDream if you were on a relationship for ten years and then this relationship of over a year is over, honey, you have been given a precious gift. You are now in control of your whole life, you can do anything you want. After being attached to a person for 11 years, it’s time for you to focus on yourself. Go out and eat whatever the fuck you want without wondering if he’s going to pay, or why you have to pay all the time. Now it’s the time for yourself, the time for you to do anything you want.
And yes, The Hizzy, I kept reading that forum and OMG. Made me glad I’m single. Although my last MIL was a dear. She still texts me sometimes.
That sounds all levels of fucked up. But there must have been warning signs, I mean, it’s all too weird.
@Copa how’s the neighbor?
I’d say go on a second date. Give it another shot.
You were very nice to her, offering to pay for her haircut and then offering $300.
I would have kicked her out of my house after laughing at her for 8 hours.At 41 or 16 it’s tough to go through a breakup. However, at 41 you know what you want and you can’t settle for less. You told him what you wanted, what your needs where and he didn’t deliver. He didn’t even fight for it, left everything to you. You need someone who can compromise and who can talk about feelings and/or why things changed.
I’m sorry, breakups are awful but it’s worse to stay with someone that doesn’t appreciate you.Well, you learn from everything. This time you learned that your gut was right. You felt something was off, this wasn’t meeting your expectations. So, next time, maybe you’ll trust your gut sooner. By the third date you can decide wether or not you want to pursue something so you don’t waste any time.
We ALL think something is wrong with us when we are rejected, but that’s not the right way of thinking. Anytime does thoughts come to mind, block them inmediately, you already said that he was hung up on his ex so, this has nothing to do with you. Someone better will come along.I’m gonna step up here and say dating a co-worker was awful for me. I still have to see him every day, him being friendly with his lovely girl friends that I hate. But we’re civil. We talk sometimes. But moving on has been harder.
My sister married her coworker, and it has been awesome for them, so there’s another thing.Thank you all.
I actually enrolled in beauty school a couple months ago. I’m on my way to become a licensed nail tech and later in the year I’ll start makeup lessons. I practice during the weekends on a plastic hand ?.
I have my career, my job, my masters, but I’d always wanted to learn how to do nails properly, however, lazy me never did anything. So, one day being really sad I just went and enrolled. It’s expensive but it’s really relaxing to learn. It’s helped so far and maybe later I could profit from itThank you all, a lot for the kind replies.
Therapy: I went for a few months, didn’t help. It got too expensive and I thought he was focusing on my ex, and why the relatioship didn’t work, instead of my own issues.
I have thought about finding a new therapist, however with the last one I really thought it was a waste of money, and I don’t really want to waste my money again. I have to ask around again.
Depression hasn’t really crossed my mind, but maybe. I’m also having a lot of issues with hormones (I haven’t gotten my period since september).
Where would I want to be? Not necessarily married, but maybe with someone by my side. In a better place financially, also. Close circle of friends to hang out with. But I feel like most of them are really busy all the time. We don’t hang out as much.
I love dogs, but I have two cats already though. They are actually the ones that sometimes make me get out of bed. I am waiting to hear from a shelter around my home, because I volunteered to walk the dogs that are up for adoption. Fingers crossed.
I will start with the grattitude “challenge” tomorrow @LadyE. I know there are some highlights, I am planning a trip to Europe for a month, so I know I have things to be grateful for.
About my friend, I don’t know if he is not happily married, I would think otherwise. He’s told me their arguments are about where to vacation next… So, I don’t know. Maybe that’s why it’s tough.
