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Yeah, I feel the same, it’s weird. Like I’m happy my sister found someone so good for her, but then again she married at 25, something I would have never done. So, it’s weird.
@Copa, some advice though. Try to do something before your date aimed to change your mood, maybe. Try not to go to this date that you are so hopeful about, feeling meh.I haven’t learned to use the quote feature haha.
@Copa, I think getting a dog is great! And it also opens up some possibilites, like dog parks. I met my first longtime BF while walking my dog. Just remember when you’re down, being single is awesome and it comes with a lot of benefits.
I was tossing and turning last night thinking about spending the rest of my life alone, going on meh first dates or having short-lived relationships that get my hopes up, and generally remaining, well, lonely. :-/ But, onto the next I suppose!
I feel the same way and I have been single for only two months. I visited my sister last Sunday and we went to buy plants for her house and seeing her with her husband making decisions about decorating made me think that I’ll never have that, I though I was close but the it ended. And I got sad.
But then again, there are some serious perks about being single that I had forgotten about that made me feel happier. For instance, yesterday I went out with some coworkers and one of them is really into me. It kind of made me feel happy to think that if I had wanted to sleep with him yesterday I could have. I didn’t though, because I learned my lesson and I won’t date or sleep with a coworker never again. But just the thought of having all of these possibilities open up made me feel better.“since I’m now pretty adamant about making sure the first meeting can be quick”
That is pretty good advice, I told that to a friend of mine yesterday and he found it very useful.@Veritek he was so ridiculous I actually find it funny. Can you believe a 40 year old behaving like that? You dodged a bullet, or more like you dodged a cannonball.
@hfantods yeah, we never met. It was an amazing coincidence (for me) but apparently he didn’t see me at the restaurant and it wasn’t so amazing for him. Last time I checked he was not on Tinder anymore. I also uninstalled it after very much thought decided that I don’t want to date, I’m not ready.
I really liked that WW is a badass but the acting really threw me off. I went to see it expecting it to be worse though. Maybe it’s because I’ve seen her in other movies and didn’t like her. I watched Keeping up with the Joneses that has Gal Gadot and John Hamm, and fell asleep in the middle of it. Hated the acting. She is stunning though and very adorable so I guess that makes up for the acting part.
Oh, and in person he looked a million times more handsome that in his pics. Double bummer.
Well, I had to do some special work yesterday, that was urgent, and required me to go to a town that is 3 hours away. I stopped at some random restaurant to have lunch and when I left, there was a guy sitting there that I had met through Tinder. I totally recognized him and almost tripped and everything. I didn’t talk to him because I had to leave in a rush. This guy had talked to me for a couple of days on Tinder, then stopped. Then he followed me on Instagram and we talked a while there, liked a couple pictures and then stopped again. It was a bummer because the conversation was really nice and I really liked him. Yesterday, when I saw him I was so surprised (like what are the odds that I ran into him, so far away from when I usually am, at a restaurant I never go to, on a day that I wasn’t supposed to be there) so I had to talk to him, and I did. We talked for a while but then he stopped. I was like OMG, this is destiny, but I guess he wasn’t haha. Bummer.
@veritek I really liked WW. It’s not the best movie ever but it’s fun to watch with a girlfriend.
Did anyone watch Wonder Woman over the weekend? I went with a friend. I liked the movie but Gal Gadot is such a bad actress.
@hfantods good thing you liked the class though.I would show up at some place where he is at with friends, not alone though. But that’s because I’m not seeing it as a date. I told him I wanted to make friends and he was ok with that. Maybe he says it’s ok because he is expecting more.
Any type of date makes me anxious. Even seeing people I already know, but maybe haven’t seen in a while or haven’t seen in a social environment. I grabbed coffee yesterday with a long time friend from work, I had never seen him outside of work and that made me anxious. Like what if I hate the way he behaves out? I don’t know, as you can see I am an overthinker. And I know it’s something I need to get over.We’ve been texting for a couple days and he is really nice and funny. I actually responded to his first message because it made me laugh. I don’t want to go on a date date yet, but I want to meet new people, not in a scary/anxious way for me. I am very anxious socially and I just know that going on a date with someone is going to be just plain awful no matter how awesome the guy is because I’ll just mess it up, like I won’t even be able to look at him in the eyes (and this is not because of the breakup, this is me, normally, when getting to know someone who is interested in me). I need to gain more confidence before going solo and last couple of times that confidence has been provided by alcohol. So I was thinking of maybe meeting him in a more comfortable environment for me, like a casual outing with friends. For instance “I’m at XX bar with a couple of friends, why don’t you join us?” And that way I can be comfortable because I have my friends there., and it won’t be so scary.
Well, sadness comes and goes, but I’m mostly happy and calm. Weekends are hard but I have tried to keep myself busy. Ex hasn’t stopped bugging me but I try my best to avoid him and I learned that I shouldn’t expect anything from him.
I downloaded Tinder again last Sunday and started talking to a guy that seems too good to be true. He already asked me out but I feel like we should talk some more before. He seems very eager to go out even when I told him that I actually joined Tinder to make friends, not to date or anything serious (and it says so on my profile) so, we’ll see what happens. At least the conversation has been nice.
