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Not every relationship with a very interested guy leads to something serious. A guy or a woman could be very interested in someone, but then other factors come in. Like bad timing. And that seems to be the case for Miss Dre. There is no need to disregard her opinion, just because nothinbg has turned serious yet, she clarified it by saying that it was her experience.
I also think it’s very brave to tell someone how you feel. However, don’t let him string you along. If he’s not feeling the same then it’s time to move on and find a new gentleman friend.
He messages me regularly and talks about himself 95% of the time and doesn’t bother to even ask me a single question.
The worst.
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1. I don’t know how to be honest, or,
2. I don’t know. To be honest, I’m not cut out for that.I understand, insecurity is a bitch. Sometimes I wonder why my boyfriend of two years is with me, when he could be with someone much more attractive or feminine than me. It’s not that I am bad looking, but I have struggled with weight and skin issues. At my almost 31 years old, I still get some awful pimples. So, when he tells me that my face is “glowing”, or that I look beatiful I wonder why is he lying haha.
Another example, during my weight loss my boobs went MIA. I hate them now, they used to be perky and now, they’re not. He compliments me on them every single day and I just can’t believe him. It’s like I’m thinking that there is no way that I am that beautiful as he says.
I remember in college when one of my “friends” said that nobody would ever want to be with me because I had an “ugly body”. That is still with me. And I also remember one time I came home crying because I felt ugly. I cried for two nights in a row. And the next week I joined a gym.
So, I feel what everybody is talking about.
And kmen, I guess that what people are saying is not to stop dating, but maybe get rid of the apps and meet people the old fashion ways. That does not necessarily means to be passive, because by joining new groups or activities you keep being looking for someone, but in a different way. I think apps maybe cause some exhaustion due to the fact that you meet the person after you had some original idea or first impression, and that can cause some dissapointments when that idea isn’t what the person is. So, sometimes a break could be cool.I keep thinking that men (and women) treat people like that because other people allow them too. @MissDre like he made you feel bad going MIA, being a total dick and dissapearing on you, you posted here about how bad that made you feel, everyone said that he was being a dick and not being honest and then he reappears, telling you he took a job on the other side of the world, you talk to him again, he makes you think you can be friends, and you believe him again, and I bet anything that you were hopeful. He was sending memes? I’m sorry to tell you this, but this guy will never stop treating women like this if women keep allowing that behaviour. He was never sincere with you, and you allowed him to be like that. He had the ball in his court the whole time.
On another topic, I think this was a very interesting read:
http://qz.com/474766/the-biggest-mistakes-people-make-when-choosing-a-life-partner/?utm_source=parHuffPoI didn’t mean it like I am afraid of being alone, I’ve been alone before and it went great. I could be alone again, it’s not like I can’t take it.
But a relationship has to make your life better, not worse. And I feel like he has improved my life. My life is much better with him than without. It is just the communication.. Damn. We have talked about it and he wants to improve. He is the big brother, parents divorced at 9, dad left for another woman. At 9 he had to “take over” and be the man of the house. So, you get the picture. He can talk about his feelings when encouraged but other than that, remains quiet and never says anything until he has to.There was an apology and a promise to never do it again. That was after the whole conversation though. And, as always, a promise to start trying to communicate better. He is immature but he has come a looooong way.
I have thought of breaking up but I fear a life without him. He has brought so much into my life. So, when I think about ending things I almost always dismiss the thought quickly. However this time, I actually thought about it, and he knew what I was thinking.
I actually read about the four horsemen a while ago, and I know the silent treatment is not an option in a relationship.@sararosie, that is how I feel too, yet I have been in a relationship for almost two years. I see everyone getting engaged, married or having kids and sometimes I don’t see it close for us.
This last weekend we had a trip that I thought was awesome, but he decided to ruin it by giving me the silent treatment for the last hour of the drive back home. Then, yesterday we talked and he told me everything I did wrong during the trip, which made him explode during the last part. So, the trip was awesome for me and he says it was awesome for him too, but I did things he didn’t like and he reacted like a small child or a teenager. He is very immature sometimes which makes me think that we are far far away from that kind of stuff. Communication is very hard sometimes and I feel sometimes like we should just break up. But I don’t want to break up because in many ways, this has been the best relationship I’ve ever had. I keep telling him what he should do to communicate, that silent treatmeant and ignoring me and never wanting to discuss anything is not ok, but I’m also tired of telling him what to do.
My best friend is single and sometimes I feel jealous of that. And sometimes she feels jealous of me for being in a committed relationship. I guess one can’t have it both ways. It’s hard on both sides.And a breakup text on a monday morning at 6:15 a.m.? He just won the “get your head out of your ass award” of the week.
He probably knew he was taking the job before even leaving.
If I were you, I’d cut ties with him sooner rather than later. I’d block him on social media, email, etc. It’s not nice to go MIA on someone who he almost certainly knew was waiting for a response. Dickish move.
I’d respond to that text saying that he’d message you later with “I’d rather you didn’t. Have a nice life”. Because he’ll probably want to be friends after this and be the good guy and whatevs.
