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I’ve never made a big deal for Valentine’s day, even in a couple. A couple years ago my exboyfriend cooked dinner for me and that was the first and only time that he cooked and that we did something.
This year I think I’ll send funny stuff to my friends, like chocolates or such, and I’ll lay low.

This whole incident with the video has been too much and has reinforced my idea of taking a break from dating and anything that is close to dating.

Veritek your rings are very pretty!
Sorry to hijack this thread from the ring talk but something happened to me that I haven’t processed well, I think.
I had a FWB about six years ago that ended because I met my ex boyfriend and because he was having feelings for me. We remained friends for a while but then this guy disappeared. Anyways, we got in touch last October and we remembered all the fun we had (not only sex), we have a lot in common, we have a great time together, etc. He was coming off a fresh breakup. We have hung out about once a week, and last time we hung out we kissed (we were both a little tipsy). When he got home he sent me a video of him masturbating… Keep in mind that we had only kissed and nothing else happened, and this was a “close friend” of mine. I was shocked but didn’t say anything. Two days later he apologized and said that it was too much I said it was ok, I didn’t know what else to say. I just stopped talking to him until he texted me a couple of days ago and I said that I wasn’t really ok with all. I felt dirty. He told me that I was hard to read, that I was “difficult”, that he didn’t know how to treat me. I said that video was uncalled for, I never asked for anything like that from you. He kept texting but I didn’t want to talk anymore so I said that. A couple hours later he sent me a whatsapp audio nine minutes long. I deleted it without listening to it. I haven’t talked to him since.
Is there anything else to do? Did I do right?

So, I kept dating a guy I posted about earlier. He is great, although I kept hoping for more sparks, we kept dating and seeing what happened. But, as it turns out, he still has strong plans to move to Europe in a couple months. I definitely don’t want a LDR and it’s not in my plans to move abroad anytime soon. So, this really kept me from investing more in this relationship and this guy caught on. So, yesterday we had the talk. He says he is more than happy to go on as friends, and hang out when we can, and all of that because in my mind he will always be the guy who wants to leave. I can’t stand the thought of being with someone if they plan on leaving.
Anyways, this has really bummed me. I feel down. I think I will take a break from Tinder and trying to meet new people because I keep thinking why make all of the effort if it all ends like this. It’s really tiring. And I know I haven’t been on as many dates as many people have, I’ve only met like 5 or 6 people of Tinder, but I kind of have the feeling today that it’s never going to happen.
Holiday blues is still affecting me I guess. But anyways, I guess I’ll be ok, I am busy with a lot of stuff right now, training for the inka trail and my first 10 k.

I’m sorry you’re going through that JD. Internet hugs your way

I had a really good first date with a guy from Tinder on Saturday. We went to have pizza and then to watch people wearing Halloween costumes on the street. It was nice, he is super nice guy and really cute. I couldn’t tell if he likes me though. He texted me to say he had a good time, there were talks of a second date. And we’ve been texting today. I really don’t know how to make this work because I really liked the guy. This thought kept me up at night yesterday. What to do now.

I had a question. I think I’m the only single person going on first dates on this thread but I still want to know what are your go-to first date outfits? I’ve been on three first dates this year and I have worn the same to all three: and oversized sweater with skinny jeans and high heeled booties. I accesorize with a long neclace and that’s it. I really don’t know what to wear to a first date because I don’t want to be too forward but also it’s at night so not as casual. I don’t know. What do you guys think?

@Cleo thanks! I’m going with my sister and she has promised that she will get my a “It’s my birthday” badge. I’m excited.
Chiming in to say, I’ve never lived with anyone but moving in with someone is something you should overthink? I mean, why would you rush? It’s ok to not be ready and it’s ok to see all the possible outcomes.
@Veritek I though he was moving near you, not with you! This is success! Really happy for you.