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I had a really good first date with a guy from Tinder on Saturday. We went to have pizza and then to watch people wearing Halloween costumes on the street. It was nice, he is super nice guy and really cute. I couldn’t tell if he likes me though. He texted me to say he had a good time, there were talks of a second date. And we’ve been texting today. I really don’t know how to make this work because I really liked the guy. This thought kept me up at night yesterday. What to do now.

I had a question. I think I’m the only single person going on first dates on this thread but I still want to know what are your go-to first date outfits? I’ve been on three first dates this year and I have worn the same to all three: and oversized sweater with skinny jeans and high heeled booties. I accesorize with a long neclace and that’s it. I really don’t know what to wear to a first date because I don’t want to be too forward but also it’s at night so not as casual. I don’t know. What do you guys think?

@Cleo thanks! I’m going with my sister and she has promised that she will get my a “It’s my birthday” badge. I’m excited.
Chiming in to say, I’ve never lived with anyone but moving in with someone is something you should overthink? I mean, why would you rush? It’s ok to not be ready and it’s ok to see all the possible outcomes.
@Veritek I though he was moving near you, not with you! This is success! Really happy for you.

@Copa and @alafair: I like the guy but I also think we could be friends. He is training for an ultramarathon so he always has to train. But we text every day and I even tell him what I’m up too. We are friendly so if the relationship derives into that I wouldn’t mind. You never have enough friends that is exactly right. I actually still talk to someone I met on tinder a while ago, we text every now and then and he is funny, but we never got to actually meet. He’s going to Norway and has asked for opinions and has shared his schedule with me. But we never met. It’s funny, he is a texting friend.
@Ms.Vader sounds like a nice date. Was it the first?

@Copa that sounds like a funny story and BG sounds really sweet.

I remember dates from EVERYTHING, my good memory is a curse. I still remember my first boyfriend’s phone number. So, there’s that.
Early dating birthdays, I’d say the fun activity you are planning would be ok. I don’t think a gift is necessary. And if it doesn’t last, you won’t have wasted a lot of money that you’ll regret later.

@Copa things sound nice with Bumble Guy. And Neighbor keeps reminding you of the huge bullet you dodged.

I went on another date with Tinder Guy. With Pet Guy, I’ve only seen him once. I had to cancel our second date and we haven’t rescheduled.

Tinder Guy is fine, I like him but he is training for an ultra marathon right now, so he doesn’t have much time, which makes me think that it will end sooner rather than later. We text every day but we don’t schedule dates that often (I’m at fault for that too). Today would be our fourth date and he invited me to his place. This makes me wonder: how long do you wait to invite someone to your place? How long do you a think a person should wait to invite YOU over?
The thing is, and don’t judge me, I don’t know if he wants sex or not, he hasn’t stated that clearly. Could be he’s inviting me over to try and see where it goes. He has been a nice guy so far. However, I am feeling really bad about my looks and appearance lately. Just yesterday I found out that my BF is sky high. Like I’ve never had such a high BF % and I am not ok with my looks right now (thanks summer trip to Europe). And this makes me feek veeery self conscious, so today I don’t feel like getting naked for the first time in front of someone. So initially I said yes to going over to his place, but now I don’t want to, because I don’t want to have even a possibility of sex. And also, I don’t know if that’s what he wants, I coulg go and just hang out. But until today, my thought is don’t go to someone’s place unless you know you want to get physical. But then again, I’m kind of new at dating. My mind is a mess haha.