DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Manfriend of Veritek and I live almost two hours apart. We see each other, at minimum, once a week. It’s not too far away if you really want to see someone.
Exactly. And for 3 months until I’m there? SO TOTALLY DOABLE.
@courtney89 so, he took a while to text back and that was a sign to delete him and move on?
No, no. Not being a quick texter is fine. We’re all busy and he has a demanding job and I totally get it. But I reached out that night after we went to brunch, he took awhile (not a super good sign but OK, understand) and I decided to let him reach out to me. He didn’t. That’s when I was like OK I don’t want to accidently text or call him and deleted him :shrug: still hasn’t reached out, so onward and upward.
@Ale Yeah, Neighbor is shady and the more glimpses I see into his real life (and not his “new year new me” life), I’m glad I’m not the one being treated like that, but I’ll also say, it’s a weird thing to know.
Also, this was particularly true of my first serious relationship, but I think it took me a couple years to stop being very aware of milestone dates (e.g., birthdays, anniversary, etc.) on the day every year. I actually cannot remember that ex’s b-day anymore, though, even though I would’ve spent maybe four total with him. I remember it was toward the end of May, but cannot recall the day. So if you bump into your ex, you can always act like you don’t remember if you don’t feel like wishing him a happy birthday.
Do people generally have ideas for what’s appropriate for early-days dating birthdays? Like I said, I want to do something fun with BG and we’d talked about indoor skydiving as a bday date, cupcakes are easy enough for when we nail down a date, but do I also need to get him a gift?
No, I mean if there was some small token thing, like based on an inside joke or something he loves, you could get him that too, but a dinner / night out / experience that you treat him to is gift enough.
I remember dates from EVERYTHING, my good memory is a curse. I still remember my first boyfriend’s phone number. So, there’s that.
Early dating birthdays, I’d say the fun activity you are planning would be ok. I don’t think a gift is necessary. And if it doesn’t last, you won’t have wasted a lot of money that you’ll regret later.@Copa – I’d get him something small related to the experience – like a souvenir pic if they do those? Nothing major, just a momento of your time together.
So the AG has been househunting, and his current house went into escrow right before this almost month-long trip. He asked me to go look at a couple and do a video walk through. Neither of us are good phone/video chatting people; we both prefer to text. On the first one his agent wanted to talk to him so we started up a vid chat. Just all of a sudden he smiled and there he was. My heart just splatted at his feet. I don’t even know what to do with this. We’re closing in on 5 months together…it just seems sudden to me. Luckily I’ve got 2 weeks before he gets back to get my head straight.
My SIL did something great for FMH for Christmas….she made him home made individually wrapped brownies. I think that has been his favorite gift he’s ever received.
I plan to recreate it next year for his birthday after being together for 3 years at that point. You did cupcakes year 1 – why not make it a tradition?
Not sure if you are referring to me, Hizzy, but this thread has reminded me today of an amazing looking peanut butter chocolate cake from Smitten Kitchen which is definitely up his alley.
I don’t think you need to get another gift Copa. The indoor sky diving sounds great enough!
Just all of a sudden he smiled and there he was. My heart just splatted at his feet. I don’t even know what to do with this. We’re closing in on 5 months together…it just seems sudden to me. Luckily I’ve got 2 weeks before he gets back to get my head straight.
@ALAFAIR….Sorry can you clarify what you meant by that? Not sure if this is a good or bad thing…@Cleopatra_30 It’s a scary thing. I saw him and the first thought in my head when he smiled was just that I loved him. Just that simple and complicated. Thing is, I’ve been married twice, but never truly been in love. When I was doing the hard work of therapy, my therapist helped me realize that it was because of my childhood that I wanted someone who wouldn’t leave but who couldn’t truly hurt me – because I always had that small core tucked away, safe you know? I had to acknowledge my part in all of that in order to heal.
So for me this is brand new territory, being open to someone like this. Is not the weird sunshine and flowers explosions people always say they have. Is more like..just a knowing, deep inside. And I don’t know how to handle it other than take a breath and see if I’m stuck or it passes like the flu.
I’ve been dating my guy for about three months now, and things have been going very well. The most annoying part is that our work schedules make it difficult to see each other more than once a week, plus I was traveling a decent amount at the end of August. We did have plans to go to a music festival this weekend, but it’s been cancelled on account of impending doom/hurricane. And now I’m freaking out about the hurricane now, taking the cat and heading to my family in the mountains tomorrow after work.
@shakeourtree You are in Raleigh, right? So am I, and I am scared too but my family is 3 states away and I’m afraid if I leave I won’t be able to get back. I’m not worried about flooding at my house so I’m just going to hunker down with my dog. Be safe and best wishes.
