Am I being catfished?
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I been messaging her on the Bumble App. Now we exchanged numbers to text. She doesn’t seem like she wants to talk or text much. She skips general questions I’ve asked. She said she works as needed as a substitute teacher. And part time at Walmart as a cashier at customer service. She also said she doesn’t own a car and can’t drive. But that someone takes her to work. She ignored my request for a photo of her in her Walmart outfit. She doesn’t always respond. She gave me a crazy story like she talks to people in other countries. Of which I never even asked such a question. She also said her ex abused her. Her ex still has custody of their kids.
Is this the same person from several weeks ago? If you’ve been talking for more than a week or two and the person can’t meet up, then you just stop engaging and move on. It doesn’t really matter if they’re a scammer or a time waster or what’s going on with them, just the fact that they are on a dating site yet can’t meet for a date is enough that you stop talking to them.
I just met her on the App a few days ago. Yeah I deleted myself off the App. Too many fakes etc on there.
She hasn’t said much. She did say she was hurt two weeks ago. She told me she is working while wearing a cast. Which doesn’t make sense to me. I myself wouldn’t be working with a hurt ankle. I have had ankle pain and would be hard to stand or even walk. So I don’t know she is being honest. Besides she told me she’s been off work today.
If you are communicating with someone from a dating app or website and they do or say something that feels “off,” move on to the next match. Red flags here include: she didn’t include a photo on her profile, she is nonresponsive, she tells whackadoodle stories that don’t make sense, and she’s sharing too much too fast about her traumatic past. You should stop talking to her. Shady people use dating sites all the time to catfish or scam or cheat. A podcast I listened to awhile back had a term I can no longer remember for someone who is in a committed relationship and on the dating sites for the ego boost but they have no intention to meet up (i.e., someone who will waste your time as long as you allow it to be wasted). Keep swiping to get new matches.
Ok so, I don’t know what someone would have to gain by telling you stuff like they work at Walmart, are in a cast, and don’t have a car, especially if they’re not really trying to engage you or getting back to you much. You seem super duper suspicious of everyone you meet. My question to you is, if this woman is what she says she is, are you even interested in meeting her? If so, and you ask her to meet, and she can’t, then either she’s not interested or not really available and you should just stop messaging. You don’t have to take yourself off the whole app. But if your guard is up so much that you’re asking off-putting questions like send me a pic in your uniform, and you think everyone must be fake, then probably you aren’t ready to date. Maybe just go to church, or group stuff you’re interested in, and if you form an organic connection with anyone you meet then great. You’d at least know they’re real and able to get themselves to where you are.
What are you trying to find? A scammer or a date? You are putting people off by being so suspicious and weird. Why invest so much time in the scammer idea? If you don’t like what someone says or doesn’t respond- move on with your life and stop worrying about it so much.
I think you would do better not meeting on an app.
How are you being catfished? Nothing is happening and you say she’s largely unresponsive. Scammers usually want something and keep the conversation going.
Also, Bumble rolled out a verification feature when I was on it years ago (2018). It has maybe changed, but back then it would compare your face in real time to the photos that you used and prompt you to make certain “poses,” like giving a thumbs up. If you are worried about catfishing, fake profiles, and scammers, verify your own profile and only swipe right on anyone who has done the same.
There are a lot of common sense practical steps you can take to have a better experience online dating.
