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“I wouldn’t go out again with a guy who didn’t listen to “no” right away.”
I feel the same way. If you prefer going out in public because you’re afraid of what could happen, then don’t go.
@LadyE that sounds like a fun date! What do you think about him so far?
@TheHizzy I’ll be watching the weekend, hopefully this will be Sara’s year. Surprised to see all the people that tested positive on drugs.Yeah, my therapist said something similar. That maybe these guys really don’t know what they’re doing and we feel responsible for both, us and them. Like we are the ones who need to make things right.
Anyways, I have two dates lined up. One for Friday and another one Saturday.
Saturday is the one that I’m excited about because we are going to a bar where there are board games. We’ll see how it goes. It could be good for me or I could end up crying late at night eating ice cream. Odds are the same!“clarity on the level of drunkenness” hahaha
Yeah Copa, my therapist told me the same exact thing.
I think we are very much alike, because I feel like my ex is a loser that isn’t worth it, yet I keep getting super anxious. And that’s what really makes me mad at myself, I want to be totally over with it but I feel I can’t. And that makes me more anxious. If I still loved him or even liked him, that would be at least understandable. I’m not patient when it comes to healing, emotionally and physically. I’ve been nursing an injury in my lower back and I want to be cured now! I want to go to the gym but I can’t.
Anyways the good thing is you know neighbor is a douche, you know you deserve better, you know he is a loser and more importantly, you know he is awful with pets. And you also know you’re awesome. And if you ever forget you can come back here and we’ll remind you.Oh yeah, I hide all the time. I use other stairs, I’m aware of the times he arrives at work or eats, so I don’t jump into him. I almost never leave the lab, only to have lunch when I know he isn’t there and I’ve asked friends to tell me if he is so I don’t go there.
And I think like you Copa, like why should I hide? I think I was good to him and he was the one that decided to end it because he didn’t want to “work” on us, like I wasn’t worth it and he wanted to see his female married friend who took him to Cancun as a 30th birthday present whenever he wanted because she was more important than me.
So, yeah I shouldn’t hide. And he probably realizes I’m hiding or avoiding him, and therefore realizes how important he is.
And another problem is, hiding so much makes me not really be ready for when I bump into him. Like it’s a given that we’ll see each other. So if I hide, then when I see him I don’t know what to do and I think it elevates my anxiety.
So I think you and me both, we should stop hiding and start giving less fucks about emotionally immature 30 year olds.I think mine is disproportional too. It was a normal relationship, but yeah, I feel like I was disposable too. It’s hard to be “better than that” I also “hide” a lot, so I don’t run into him or his saint best friend. He looks happy to see me when he does, though. I don’t know what is going to happen if I ever see him with a romantic interest. Probably a full blown panic attack.
Anyways Copa. I think we’ve all been petty at some point. I think it’s fine. And please, stop thinking that she is in any way “better” than you. She is not. And do remember that he is an emotional 19 year old, so, you’re way better than him.
How long is the anxiety over run ins supposed to last?
For me, it’s been over a year of my breakup with my coworker and I still get super anxious. Like when I came back from vacation and ran into him last week I wanted to throw up and all, that kind of bad. I have to admit that up until 4-5 months ago, I still talked to him though. So there’s that. I no longer talk to him but we at least say hello to each other.
It’s hard because sometimes I see him from a distance and I think to myself that he is just a stranger now after being so important to me for so long. Anyways.I don’t know why the word “suicide” came up in that comment, super weird
99% relatedness tells you the possibility that he is the father suicide or relative, in this case they are telling you with 99% probability he is her uncle. Usually it is 99.999999% NO TEST ever is going to tell you 100% chance. He is not the father. Done.
Copa, did you text him back?
So, I’m officially back on Tinder. Downloaded the app again, even paid for tinder plus. Already have a few matches, we’ll see how it goes.
So sorry to hear that @shakeourtree. I hope you get the help you need right now.
I love this thread. I posted here about my breakup a year ago before even telling anyone else and got a lot of support. And I’m not dating at the moment but the advice here helps a lot, and I even reference it when talking to friends. I hope everyone is doing great.
