snow.angel

@Sarah b, plenty of people have fantasies about people who are unattainable. That by itself isn’t necessarily a problem. If you want to continue to fantasize about your boss and imagine all of the “what-ifs,” nobody can stop you. I think you just need to be honest with yourself and make sure that your “anything can happen” attitude and fantasies about your boss aren’t interfering in your professional life or holding you back from pursuing relationships with guys who are actually available to you. Like, if you find yourself constantly comparing guys you meet to your married boss, that’s a problem. Or if you notice that you are starting to analyze your boss’s moods and behaviors to try to figure out whether he’s having marital issues, that’s a problem. Since you work closely with him and have these fantasies about him, you also need to watch your boundaries and be professional at all times. Hopefully you are able to see some of the genuine advice and suggestions commenters left for you before the thread spiraled out of control.