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I spent a week apart from BG (last week), which was due in part to the stress of going remote overnight at work, my dog getting sick, and feeling under the weather myself. My state is now sheltering in place and I’m at his place. I didn’t want to spend 2+ weeks alone, but we also weren’t sure if we’d drive each other nuts working remote together in a small-ish space. Today was day one and so far so good. Since we’ve been talking about moving in together, I feel like this an intense crash course in cohabitation since we’re together 24/7 basically, and it’s not fun like vacation.
Congrats @veritek!
My sister knew this couple when she lived in NYC through her gym and showed me the video they posted to social media, captured by a friend: https://www.cnn.com/2020/03/21/us/new-york-couple-married-street-officiant-trnd/index.html. I think several videos of their wedding are making the rounds online at this point. I’ve become really weepy in the past two weeks and got all weepy as they shouted, “I do!” I thought it was sweet.
It’s not about the party, but I still hope you get yours.
I’m wary of even takeout right now to be honest. Like, I don’t know who touched my food or if they were careful with their hygiene. Maybe it’s harmless — like meals I can nuke after I’m home to be extra safe — but for now, hard pass.
If people get too close to you on dog walks, you can absolutely say something. I live in a lively area of my city and can tell people are trying, though sometimes sidewalks are narrow and we’re closer than six feet. I came to my boyfriend’s last night and he’s in a quieter area so I think it’ll be a bit easier here.
On Wendy’s note, is there anything you guys can think of that we can do for our friends on the front lines? (Other than staying home, obviously.) One of my best friends from college is an ER doctor in Seattle. We touched base last week and she was fine then. Worried and doing her best to keep a level head, but fine. I haven’t reached out since because I figure a lot of people probably are and I don’t want my worry to weigh her down. I don’t know how I can help, but want to.
I think the panic shopping will subside. (I’ve read Italy went through this and after a couple weeks stores were stocked as normal.) The cashier at my grocery store last weekend said it’s a total crapshoot what you’ll find at the moment — that they might be well stocked on eggs for two days, then out for two more, for example. If you can get to the store early, that’s ideal.
I bought some extra groceries last weekend — more than for my normal week but not hoarding. I think I’ll be okay for another week at least. For produce, I tried to mix up what I bought to make sure some have longer shelf lives so that I can still have fresh produce without going to the store. I wish I had more frozen greens on hand (LOVE my greens), but they were out. I’m heading to my boyfriend’s this afternoon and I know he’s also well stocked. I’m generally more worried about this than he is but he sent me a pic of his haul from last week and he bought WAY more. I’m actually pretty curious to see how long it’ll be before we genuinely need to go to the store.
My cousin and his wife in CA are expecting a baby in early April. His wife is FREAKING OUT about all of this, and I don’t blame her. So I hope her delivery goes smoothly so they can get in and out of the hospital as quickly as possible. I just want their new little family to be home safe.
I have another friend in London who is pregnant (due late May) and her husband is a doctor. He’s been ill with flu symptoms and they don’t know with what yet. She is also freaking out, and again, I don’t blame her.
I’m already living that shelter in place life. I’ve only gone to the store when I needed to, and to the vet because my dog got sick. Going to my boyfriend’s today for the foreseeable future but we’ve actually been arguing a bit about how strict we need to be about social isolation. He wanted to have a friend over last night — his needy single friend who 100% relies on him to have all his social needs met — and I was like WTF, is that necessary!? And he got defensive. To my mind being overly cautious won’t cause any additional harm, but being a little too lax could have awful consequences. So we’ll see how that goes.
I’m sorry, @veritek! I hope you guys can still celebrate in a way more aligned with what you wanted down the road.
Two dating-ish related stories that I hope will make everyone chuckle.
For those of you who remember when I “dated” my handsome neighbor like two years ago, you may recall I mentioned he didn’t own soap. I saw him the other day and started wondering if he’s finally been forced to in light of the pandemic.
Did an extended family Zoom meeting last night and one of my cousins, who I’ve always found arrogant, mentioned that when he was dating he gave prospective dates what sounded like a multiple choice application to date him. He was mocked on the call. His girlfriend of two-ish years was with him (I’ve met and like her!) and works in standardized testing creating the content. Even she joined in to joke about the fallacies in his test/application.
Anyway, just trying to lighten to mood, but I hope you are able to have a great wedding day even if it’s not what you planned, @veritek! It really does suck, and it’s okay to be upset about it, but I hope you won’t be so bummed that you can’t enjoy your day.
I donated to my local food bank and am planning to pre-pay my next haircut. My sister and I see the same hair dresser, actually, and my sister ended up keeping her appointment yesterday, so I gave her some money to make sure our hair dresser gets a more generous tip.
Some of my extended family got together on Zoom last night and it was fun. We’re all scattered around the country and we’ve never thought to do anything like that before. I have been alone since Friday night (the last time I saw my boyfriend, we don’t live together, I’ve been under the weather and am being as cautious as I can) and connecting with loved ones in that way was huge for me. I feel calmer. I think I’ll be heading to my boyfriend’s tomorrow or Friday so we can hunker down together.
My boyfriend’s stepdad is a Trump supporter. I guess his mom has slowly drifted right during their marriage and she was praising the administration’s response to this. Oh boy. I want to throw things at my TV during Trump’s daily press conferences.
I just went out to run a quick errand that I was holding off on, but decided to get done today in case we are asked to shelter in place, and vote. I think people are starting to get it, it was really quiet out and I live in a lively neighborhood. The line to vote was long because the city is short on help, but people at my location were mindful of maintaining distance and they had wipes and sanitizer for us.
My dog got sick on Sunday night/yesterday and I keep having to re-clean everything I anxiety-cleaned over the weekend.
So I have a cold and am self-isolating out of an abundance of caution, was just traveling last week. Haven’t even seen my boyfriend since Friday, even though I eventually plan to go to his place to hunker down. I’m generally worried about this and have been having some pretty fucked up dreams. Like I woke up panicked at 2 a.m. feeling like I needed to take my temp.
I’m so sorry to those of you who are dealing with this in ways that are way more real and scary than what I’m dealing with.
Also, I’ve read that people who take blood thinners are at higher risk, if that’s helpful for anyone here.
Yeah, I was actually wondering if we’d be next. I’m well stocked and feel prepared — was already limiting my outings to essential errands — but would schlepp my haul to the boyfriend’s if we go on full lock-down. Will be a bit bummed if I can’t run as I was planning but my gym has been putting at-home workouts online and I’ll be fine.
Learned today that my company is able to continue paying all employees as usual, even if they are unable to work remote, and feel glad about that.
Looks like much of the Bay Area will be heading into a total lockdown: https://www.sfchronicle.com/local-politics/article/Bay-Area-must-shelter-in-place-Only-15135014.php.
