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We haven’t, and I’m not ready for that in any case — we’re still a few months out from the one year mark. TBH I am a bit freaked out to have met someone so solid even though it’s what I wanted. And at this point in my life, I’d want to wait for a more solid commitment. Living together as a test run wouldn’t be for me. I lived with one boyfriend ages ago, when I was young and very stupid, and that break-up was more awful than it needed to be. I don’t want to mesh lives like that again unless we’re both sure we’re all in. Unsure if this is weird, but I also think I am someone who would mourn her single life a bit if/when I move in with someone. Like I love having my own space and doing what I want when I want and solo nights in sometimes.
@Ale I think the universe is on your side with this one if you’re sure he couldn’t have been rerouted on the same flights. Good call on blocking him — this guy seems particularly determined and cooky.
In dating news, I think I mentioned that BG and I don’t do a ton of weekday sleepovers when he’s not on the road, they get a bit stressful between my dog and his early start time when he isn’t traveling. Well, he took today off to get a day to himself, and spent the night last night. And he made my morning so easy and lovely! He took my dog out on a walk while I got ready and made us coffee, which we were then able to enjoy on the couch together. And then he drove me to work! 😀
Yeah, I’d probably change my flight, too, and do what @TheHizzy said. I’ve encountered some creepiness through online dating, but luckily not much. If it’s been two years and this guy is still around… well, that’s not good. I do believe coincidences like this happen sometimes (I’ve randomly been on a flight with people I know, and have bumped into a family I know on vacation in Amsterdam), but because he’s lingered this long and now texting you his flight details… kinda makes me think he knows it’s your flight somehow.
How did a Tinder match know who your ex is? How have you been talking to someone whose identity you do not know? I’m not sure I understand all the details, but he sounds super weird and I’m sorry you’re dealing with him.
I’ve been mentioning her on this site for years as a cautionary tale for all kinds of situations: It’s better to date longer when you’re young, calling off a wedding is cheaper than divorce, don’t assume marriage will fix your problems, don’t rely solely on your partner to meet all your needs, don’t force the fit, listen to your gut, and on and on. She’s like eight LWs in one! I had a gut feeling even before they got engaged that they were going to end up miserably married and eventually divorced. I think it’s going to take her a very long time to heal and move on. As hard as it felt sometimes to be single when I didn’t want to be, she always made me glad I didn’t marry any of the guys I dated in my 20s.
Yeah, I have a handful of friends who are about my age (early 30s) and divorcing or recently divorced. If I’m being honest, I’m not surprised by any divorces so far. With one friend in particular I’m actually surprised she and her soon-to-be ex-husband kept it together as long as they did. She’s not handling it well, though, so it’s very sad. She keeps saying she doesn’t understand how they can go from being “so committed” to divorced just like that even though they were separated and on opposite ends of the globe for more than half of their five-year marriage, and that wasn’t even their first separation.
My dog got IV fluids yesterday and immediately perked up. He felt so great, he presented his belly to the vet tech for a belly rub! The vet called today and they’re a little concerned my dog hasn’t been eating since coming home, and suggested I try some sweet potato. Which I mentioned to BG because we made plans tonight but now needed to run an errand first. He ran to the store to buy the sweet potato so I have one less thing to worry about, and cooked it so my dog wouldn’t have to wait for his grub. I’m really not used to have help so it’s even feels a little hard to accept!
@Ale Oh man! I’ve had one guy track me down on another form of social media and it really creeped me out when I saw the message (I didn’t see it until about a year had passed because of how their messaging functionality works with people you aren’t connected to). Some people are weirdos!
@shakeourtree That’s exciting! Have fun! 🙂I’d just like to take a moment to gush about how great BG is. My dog is currently sick. Threw up a lot on Monday night, which was alarming but didn’t feel like an emergency until yesterday morning when he threw up blood (and when we went outside he had brownie batter bloody diarrhea), and I got super freaked out, called off work, and took him to the vet. I had texted BG as we were leaving for the vet in a panic (I thought he’d somehow eaten glass or something sharp), even though yesterday was a travel day for him and he was also giving a presentation. So I didn’t really expect to hear from him until late. But he found a few minutes to CALL to make sure we were all okay. Small thing, but such a great thing and one I don’t think the vast majority of men I’ve dated (casually or seriously) would’ve done more than text back eventually. I feel really loved, you guys! (And for anyone who is curious, my dog is sick but didn’t eat anything stupid. The vet was fairly unalarmed by the blood and thinks he’ll be on the upswing in a few days with meds and a bland diet.)
We went out! I’d love to throw a dinner party one of these days, but my dining room table isn’t big enough.
So I organized a dinner on Saturday for BG to meet a few more of my friends and their partners. And I have to say, it makes me so very happy to see my friends having such positive reactions to him.
Agreed that I think a brunch wedding sounds fun! If I were getting married in the foreseeable future I think I’d do a city hall wedding (or some alternative that’s still a very tiny reception) followed by brunch or lunch with immediate family and/or an informal evening “reception” to open it up to more than just immediate family.
ETA: OR a destination wedding that would be small by default, or legit eloping.
