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I understand feeling a little unsure or weird about letting someone treat you to something that’s more than you would spend on yourself! Probably last fall, BG and I went to a restaurant that I’d heard was “good” but didn’t know much about. Turns out it’s a Michelin-starred restaurant and on the pricier end. When the bill came I felt like I couldn’t let him treat me to it, so I offered to split it. He insisted he wanted to, he’d picked the place knowing more about it than I did, so I said ok. It was a nice gesture. I don’t think he would’ve offered if he couldn’t afford it. It’s nice that your boyfriend wants to take you out to a nice dinner to celebrate and “share” his bonus, and I doubt he’d offer if he couldn’t afford it. You don’t need to worry about a larger financial conversation until you’re talking seriously about moving in together — and you don’t know that he’s not saving up notwithstanding things like shopping at Whole Foods or splurging on himself/you.
I’ve been invited to only a couple engagement parties. I’ve been to exactly one, for a cousin and his now-wife, but only because I happened to be in town when it was held. I would not have traveled for it. It so often seems like a gift grab to me. May have mentioned this, but I was invited to three destination weddings this year. First one, I just went to — the couple didn’t register or expect gifts. Eventually they opened up a honeymoon fund kinda deal because they got so many emails asking about gifts. The other two couples, judging by the evens they’ve had so far, really seem to expect gifts. And I’m just over here like, omg plz stop, this is too much.
@Rangerchic Ha! I know people who, after cutting out sugar, find their past favorite treats too sweet. I wish I had that problem! I’m cutting back again after eating whatever I wanted on vacation (and the week after cause my tired brain won when it came to food choices) and accepting that I’m someone who really needs to keep sugary treats in my home to a minimum.
OMG that cake looks so good. (Trying to get back off added sugar over here. Sigh.)
I like my paring knife. I have but never really use my bread knife. I have two chef’s knives that I’ve had for awhile (same brand, different sizes) and they aren’t great. I think I got them in college. I like cooking and I’m ready to upgrade. When I’m at my parents’ house I literally only reach for the chef’s knife or paring knife. I’m find spending a little bit of money on a good knife, but want to get like my parents’ that lasts for years.
@JD I really want a new chef’s knife. I’d be happy with just that one because I also don’t need a whole set. My mom has a chef’s knife that she got for like $20 at a grocery store in Japan when we lived there (15+ years ago!) that I LOVE. It looks a lot like this Wusthof: https://www.amazon.com/Wusthof-Classic-Super-Glider-8-Inch/dp/B007E2700K/ref=asc_df_B007E2700K/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=241890343659&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=8650389049374448419&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9060252&hvtargid=pla-636063639752&psc=1. I want to do research before I buy anything, but the functional equivalent of the one she has is what I’m looking for.
I have also never been to a bridal shower, though I have been invited to several. (I’ve turned them down because of travel/logistics.) A friend of a friend had a bridal shower AND a wedding shower, and I’m like… aren’t they basically the same thing?
A friend of mine getting married in June, her wedding is a destination wedding. I probably could have gone to her bridal shower, but I didn’t want to pay to extend my rental car reservation for three days at holiday rates to go to an event that would require me to spend money on a gift for a couple that’s in their 30s when I have to travel to the wedding where I’d bring another gift. It felt like too much. My mom went and said people were acting kinda bonkers. Like I guess the groom showed up at the end just to open presents and thank everyone (didn’t know this was a thing?) and she asked him to take a photo of all the women together, and other people freaked out because HE’S THE GROOM, YOU CAN’T ASK HIM TO TAKE A PHOTO BECAUSE HE’S THERE TO BE HONORED. Not sad I missed it.
In any case, I wouldn’t have a shower. If/when I get married, we’d have two sets of perfectly good stuff. I want some nice new knives but plan to buy them for myself sometime this year. (On which note, if anyone has any recommendations, I’m all ears!)
My dog is a super picky eater *with dog food*. We’ve tried a few different brands of grain-free food (assuming that was best) and none excite him. I guess they’re now saying grain-free foods are linked to heart disease in dogs. One of my dog mom friends freaked out and threw away their food. I’m going to switch again when we finish this bag, but am not sure what to switch to. And if I’m opening it up to food that I previously thought was lesser quality because it wasn’t grain-free, he might even like the taste better.
What kind of food do the dog owners here feed their dogs? The shelter I got my dog from (and volunteer at) stresses high quality organic grain-free dry food. So that’s what I bought! Well, my posse of dog moms (my dog’s siblings’ owners and I have become friends, haha) have slowly had their vets tell them that grain-free isn’t better. And, in fact, can actually be bad unless your dog has an issue that requires a grain-free diet. Curious if anyone else has heard this?
On the subject of dogs, mine spent two weeks with my mom while I was on vacation. She doted on him (and put chicken in his every meal). He seems so down since we came back home, won’t really play at all. I think he misses her. The only times he’s seemed cheery are when we run into his dog friends on walks.
What’s the occasion? One of my coworkers got her fiance a cocktail subscription box as a gift once and I filed it away as a gift idea for BG.
@MoneyPenny We haven’t been dating nearly as long, and like I’ve mentioned, he travels quite a bit for work during the week. We normally do overnights on weekends at his place. I have a dog, so any weeknight sleepovers are at my place when he’s not on the road. We generally spend more time at his place, and this is fine, but I wouldn’t like if I felt like I was living my life out of a suitcase. I’m happy with this amount for now, which is good because it won’t change unless/until he has a new job.
And yes, come to Chicago. We have beautiful architecture, a lovely lake, and ridiculously good food.
