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@Rangerchic Still figuring it out! I did my dairy reintroduction properly after Whole30, but I admittedly didn’t eat much of it. Felt fine the next day. After spending the past few days at my parents’ house, where I’ve been eating dairy and gluten, I feel positive one is causing pretty significant bloat, but don’t know which because I’m eating them together. I feel like my gluten intake right now isn’t anything crazy, but my dairy consumption is up quite a bit from usual. I need to do more trial and error around food when I get back from my trip. Non-gluten grains have so far proved fine, and that’s great since I like oatmeal, corn tortillas, and rice. Could easily live without bread with these three in the mix! The GI issues I had during Whole30 have improved significantly since adding these back into my diet. So I’m hoping to figure out a happy balance when I get back.
It’s a slippery slope for me with sweets of any kind. I discovered unsweetened dried mangos toward the end of Whole30, and I have no brakes with sweets. It doesn’t matter if it’s ice cream or dried fruit, it turns out. I can have bags of chips in the pantry for weeks without reaching for them, but I wouldn’t trust myself to eat just one square of chocolate. I’ve been eating more dairy at the moment cause I’m at my parents’ house and they always have a nice variety of cheese here and my stomach isn’t thrilled.
My family wasn’t military, but we moved every couple of years and think even if kids get “used” to it, it’s not great for them. The last time we moved I was 17 and I decided to flip an emotional switch off. I was tired, I was done. I do think all kids react differently (my sister fared better emotionally, I think, even though we had the same parents/most of the same experiences. Her transitions just happened to be at easier times — e.g., new at the beginning of middle school and as a high school freshman… whereas I, for example, went to a different middle school every year and then two high schools). If I had kids, I’d do my best to avoid shuffling them around. I hated it.
@Rangerchic Woohoo! Congrats on finishing. I finished a few weeks ago and still kept eating how I was. I made exceptions while going out and such, but it really helped me get some better habits back into my life. I might do another Whole 30 when I get back from Cape Town.
We FaceTimed, definitely feeling better. He’d just driven over 5 hours in snow at night and was tired. I was tired, it was past midnight when I got the texts, so I got panicked and a little weepy, cause how do you resolve anything by text at like 2 a.m.? He picked a bad time/method to communicate his disappointment, I took it probably as a bigger deal than he meant it. I might throw something small in the mail before I leave town, and was already planning to buy him something while I’m on my trip. I do wish it hadn’t happened right before we’re apart for a few weeks but I think we’ll just move past it and it was a lesson learned.
Congrats @K!! Sounds like the perfect proposal for you two. I love fall weddings.
I do worry about that, I guess, because I know I was a bit of a thoughtless girlfriend in my first serious relationship. Never intentionally, but I was very clueless and it was with a guy who expected me to read his mind. It was over a decade ago, though, I’ve changed and grown a lot as most people tend to do, but last night did make me wonder if maybe I’m somehow still clueless and thoughtless without realizing it.
I mean our relationship has pretty much been smooth sailing so far. This is the first time there’s felt like any amount of conflict. It’s occurred to me that maybe he didn’t realize he placed any importance on Valentine’s Day until I fell short of what he pictured? Not sure. I DO think he realizes his delivery wasn’t the best. And now I’m realizing that maybe I should have asked more directly, or tried to pull myself out of my work tunnel vision a bit more this past week. Hopefully we can discuss today, move past it, and do better.
There’s not. I leave Wednesday out of my parents’ city. He’s back home now in our city. It’s a 4.5-5 hour drive in good conditions. It’s a wintry mess out there. (It’s actually good, weather-wise, that he left when he did.)
He said nothing when we discussed Valentine’s Day. We were at a bar talking about it and I’d said it’s not a huge deal to me, maybe an excuse for dinner, that it’s not even a big deal to me if we do it on a different day, and he didn’t chime in with how he felt. I didn’t ask, either, but I feel like he could’ve said something if it was important to him. On my end, I probably would’ve done more if it had fallen on a different day. I’ve been working a lot the past couple weeks trying to get my work done for vacation (there’s no coverage while I’m out, so I basically have to meet my February deadlines in half the time). I’ve been stretched thin, he seemed indifferent. He offered to cook dinner. I took him up on it without thinking much of it cause I cook for us all the time.
Anyway, so after I wrote all of this last night he did apologize via text for the lack of communication. He said there was also some work frustration hitting him this weekend mixed in and apologized for taking it out on me. We’re going to FaceTime later. I guess I just wish we could’ve talked about it in person. He leaves for a trip the day after I get back from mine so we’re really not going to be able to spend any time together for like three weeks. My anxiety levels surrounding this trip are already through the roof and it does upset me to now have this piling on to it.
To preface – between trying to get my work wrapped up to be OOO for my trip, and feeling major anxiety over my upcoming travels (enough so that I asked for rx anxiety meds from my doctor), I haven’t been sleeping well. It’s late, I’m extremely tired, and may be overreacting.
So BG came home with me to my home state to meet the parents. 😮 We arrived Saturday afternoon and he left last night after spending the day in the area with me. Dinner with my parents went well, but I noticed he seemed not quite himself today. I was running on empty today and guess I assumed he was, too, so didn’t think much of him being quiet. Coming into the weekend he was up in the air about spending one night or two, and ultimately decided to make the drive back home this evening after one night. When he stopped for a break on his drive home, he texted that he was sorry for being grumpy during the day. I asked if he was okay, he tells me he’s actually a little upset I didn’t get him anything for Valentine’s Day, and I feel so bad about it. And now I’m wide awake at like 2 am (for what feels like the billionth time in the past few weeks) feeling like a careless, thoughtless girlfriend, even though I thought we’d been on the same page about Valentine’s. Like I said in my last update, all I got him was a card (and I forgot it when we got together). We’re creeping up on eight months now, which in the grand scheme isn’t a terribly long time, but I’ve been feeling really good about things! And I’m wondering, y’know, are there other areas of the relationship where he thinks I am inconsiderate and thoughtless, and I have no clue because they’re things that wouldn’t upset me? I’m sad wondering if we’re at the point where the blinders come off and he decides he’s out, and maybe that’s why he only stayed one night and tomorrow he’ll tell me it’s all over.
Guys! I ate so much chocolate cake last night! BG and I had talked about Valentine’s Day, and I told him it’s not a big deal to me, I don’t expect gifts, but I do like acknowledging it with a nice dinner or something. So he cooked for me last night. And also had flowers, and a heart shaped chocolate cake, and small gift (bath bombs). And a card! It’s been a really long week at work as I prep to be out of the office for a couple weeks, and it’s been exhausting… so I really appreciated someone making dinner for me. (All I had for him was a card that I forgot at home. Oops!)
I am a sucker for giving sentimental cards. I really like picking out greeting cards and write a lot in them. This is true no matter my relationship to the card recipient, not just for boyfriends — so anyone who gets a card from me basically gets a hand written letter full of feels! BG picked up on this pretty quickly and now he gets me sentimental cards. I don’t expect it, but I love receiving them!
Tell me more about your hair, @TheHizzy. If I ever get married, I’d keep things as low key as possible… but I’d care about my dress and hair. 🙂 I’m good at doing my own hair, but would I trust myself on an important day?
