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Earrings can make statements, too. 🙂
I always think pearls look classy.
I think that’s okay. I tend to do the full length dress every time I go to a black tie event to play it safe, but I think that one is formal enough that the length is okay, and agree with @JD that you could glam up even more with great accessories. RTR has jewelry and accessories for rent, too!
@alafair Glad it went well! Isn’t it funny how we can go from stressed about not meeting a guy’s people to being stressed about how omg we’re meeting a guy’s people? That was my experience.
I need a moment to gush about BG. Friday, we went to his neighbor’s comedy show and after went with his neighbor and some of her friends for a drink. BG was tired after his travel ordeal last Thursday, and it showed. One of the neighbor’s friends who came was an older coworker with her husband who had some pretty significant memory issues. He kept asking the same questions over and over. I noticed people, including his wife, getting a bit exasperated by it. But not BG. He was so patient and kind even though he was exhausted, answering and re-answering every question… never mentioned the question had already been asked and answered, never cutting corners in his responses, never changing his tone. By now, yeah, I of course know he’s a nice guy — he’s good to me, nice to everyone I’ve introduced him to, sweet to my dog. I think this was the first time I really realized that he extends that same genuine kindness even to total strangers, and it gave me major heart eyes.
@alafair Do you have a weather appropriate casual but nice dress? That’s what I’d wear to a casual wine tasting! I was really nervous to meet BG’s family/friends — I think it’s normal — and for me that came in the form of BIG holiday get-togethers, which aren’t my thing. The nice thing for me (and probably you) is that I feel like people WANT to like their son’s/brother’s/cousin’s/best friend’s significant other. I felt way less nervous when one of BG’s friends approached me at a holiday party to tell me how happy he was to see BG so happy, it helped me relax and realize I was liked before they met me for that alone. You and the AG seem to have something good going, so I’m sure everyone will be excited to meet you and already liking that you’re someone who brings him happiness.
Oh, I’m not too worried on vacation because I assume indulging will be counteracted by being more active (I’m sure we’ll walk a lot throughout the city, and we have activities like hiking and bike tour of the vineyards planned). I won’t be sitting in from of my computer screen working like 9 hours/day – wahoo!
@Ramgerchic Sorry you don’t feel like it’s helping! 🙁 I used to lose weight very fast when I’d decide to clean up my habits and have wondered myself if the slower pace this time around is age-related. I’m only early 30s, but… not 22 anymore! I guess it just goes to show that diet really is so individual and what makes one person feel great makes another feel worse.
I am a little curious how much water weight I lost in the first two or so weeks of January. I waited until I was visibly less bloated to weigh myself cause I knew I’d be unhappy with my Jan. 1 weight. I know it doesn’t really matter. As of right now, I’m about three pounds from what I’ll call my first mini-goal, eight away from what I consider my goal weight (was planning to reassess overall goals when I reached a certain number). Seems close yet far since I’m only losing about .5 lbs per week. But what I’m doing feels sustainable. Hoping to maintain while on vacation. I feel good about things today. 🙂
BG got to Denver and his flight was delayed. Didn’t touch town until after 1 a.m., guessing he didn’t get home until after 2. His first call of the morning was at 7:30 a.m. My poor guy. 🙁 One of the things I like about him is that he’s really good natured and even tempered, and even via text I could tell he was in a bad mood yesterday. Felt bad, I didn’t know what to do or how to help. As of right now he doesn’t want to cancel our plans tonight but I suspect we’ll have a super early night.
I’m down another .6 pounds! This week I wasn’t expecting to lose anything because I’ve been losing slowly and veered off course a little bit Sunday night, way off course on Monday. In the last four weeks, I’ve lost a little over five pounds, and I’d wager 7-8, possibly more, since the year started (didn’t weigh myself until Jan. 11, so impossible to know, but I do know I was bloated af after the holidays). Still a little disappointed it’s slow progress — I wanted to look amazing in Cape Town — but happy things are moving in the right direction. On Wednesday after work, I noticed a long sleeved tunic/sweatshirt that I’d bought leading up to Christmas fits better. That was validating. Oh, and probiotics! I reintroduced those into my diet this week and it now appears my GI issues are starting to clear up.
Yeah, and from what I hear, Denver is experiencing their fair share of crappy winter weather right now. Not sure if it’s cleared up since Al Roker showed footage of it this morning. I don’t think he’s getting home until tomorrow morning at this rate. We have plans tomorrow night but we’ll see if he’s still up for a night out once he’s home. He’s gone back and forth about find a new job, one that lets him stay home more, and I’m curious if this will be the tipping point.
Not relevant to anything going on in this thread, but BG spend this week in South Dakota for work. He left his hotel at 5:30 a.m. to make his flight that connects through Denver. Got on the plane, everything seemed fine, but after an hourlong delay, they said one engine wasn’t working and everyone deplaned. After a few hours of delays, he called United and they issued a partial refund to him for the inconvenience, and apparently cancelled his reservation and put him on an afternoon flight (don’t fully understand this part). Not sure what happened after that, but he’s now driving six hours to get to Denver to make a connection. YIKES! We had plans tonight but I’m gonna go out on a limb and say he’s not getting home until sometime tomorrow at this point.
I leave for Africa two weeks from today! I’m a little anxious with some last-minute details for the trip. Like I learned yesterday that a friend whose flight I thought touched down at the same time in Cape Town is actually on an earlier flight, and now I need to figure out how to safely get myself from airport to Air BNB at night in a city I don’t know. (I’m told taxis and Uber are safe during the day even for solo female travelers, but it’s not advisable solo at night.) So now I need to research private car companies, I guess. I’m not technically going solo, but it is my first major solo trip in many ways — and I’m a little nervous!
BG and I have back-to-back trips planned (without one another) so I’m probably not going to see him for almost four weeks, which seems kinda crazy. We’ve started FaceTiming every few days when he travels for work, which has been nice, but four weeks!
I’d disagree that girls aren’t gross as teenagers whereas boys are innately inept at these things. I went through a phase in middle school where I was honestly kinda gross. It makes me cringe now, but for example I really hated brushing my teeth and my mom would have to force me to. I also had a girl friend who, for whatever reason and around the same age, hated showering and would lie to her mom about it. It had nothing to do with our respective parents’ standards, expectations, or parenting. By the time we were both in high school, we’d both grown out of it.
