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Interesting to hear since you experience the large groups of kids Wendy.
Agree Wendy. But that count the girl would’ve been into cars and my son would be far more masculine, he’s much more what is considered feminine although frankly that is not the proper word, I just have been up since 3am and really can’t come up with the word I feel best describes it.
I guess I am lucky to never experience a bad smelling or messy girl even when I was that age. At worst just piles of clothes from changing from outfit to outfit.
And I have read a ton of articles about boys hormones causing a good amount of smell. He just one day started to smell really bad even with multiple showers and such. Then one day it just passed. We read up about it.
None of this explains 140 chicken nuggets however. I am still cracking up over that.
Well I only spoke from having time with a growing teen boy and girl. There is a big difference from my experience. He has never been told he doesn’t have to have good hygiene, he just doesn’t care, where as she cared a lot about how she presented herself. Just because we have all these new labels doesn’t mean that men and women are inherently different and do have many characteristics that are considered more female and more male, not every single person but a large amount. I assure you, with two Air Force parents he was expected and still is, to be clean, tidy, etc. He just recently reached an age, as MANY teens do, where he doesn’t do what he is told as easily.
I also think that girls, with the expectation to be pretty and such care more about appearance at a younger age. He could care less if someone thinks he is attractive or not where as the girl cared from a rather young age as her peers were doing that. I remember the time between elementary school and middle school when it changed and she started caring about her appearance. I also remember when she shaved off her eyebrows and drew them on with an actual Sharpie but that’s a whole other Maury.Ya I think the boy part is traumatizing me. I am for sure not used to them considering growing up an only child. We finally told him to do his “special time” in his room as we can get about 5 showers in usually but he will use all the water in 1. A lot less caring about overall appearance and hygiene as well, which I have read a lot about and apparently that is fairly normal, within reason. He actually argued once that not brushing his teeth isn’t a big deal because he knows plenty of people with no teeth. I thought my husbands head was going to explode when he heard that one. For the record, I know zero people with no teeth (with the exception of people I see around here and those who have dentures…and he has only lived here a year and a half, in the land of no teeth being acceptable.) We figured the hygiene part would take a turn when he starts liking someone (as pretty much every website and person I know have said that seemed to be the catalyst) but so far that hasn’t happened, I think he will be a later bloomer in that regard, which is fine, but I was looking forward to the cleaner kid.
Ah I love the no soap. My ex having a teenage sister was the best because there was always girl stuff. Razors, tampons, conditioner.
Ya we are baffled by the nugget thing. He works at McDonald’s now, which is great he got a job and is doing something. He said he got his discount but still bought them all. Best is he said he wanted to just leave them on the dining table until he ate them. Had to explain why that wasn’t happening.
5lbs of rice. I am cracking up. I feel like I should have a blog of weird things teenagers do.
I also got yesterday him taking his food out to the trash outside because the kitchen trash was full. You know, instead of just taking all the trash out AND his food trash. I mean, I was frankly just happy he put it in the trash rather than leave it out.
Teenagers are the weirdest. Seriously.
Yesterday be brought home 140 chicken nuggets. Seriously. Why? My fridge has about 10 boxes in it right now.
Today I had to go turn the light off in his room since he left it on and I realize that when he washed his sheets last weekend (so over a week ago) he just never put the sheets on his bed and hid them away to avoid putting them on. So I am guessing he just has been sleeping on top of his comforter with a blanket (in -45 with windchill weather, although of course the heat was on).
So weird. I was around for the teenager years of exes sister (he raised her long story) and this is so different. Baffles the brain.
Reminds me of the traumatizing college years when you’d go to a guys house and he’d have a mattress on the floor and a bathroom with layers of, well, everything, no soap and maybe a square of TP.
Interesting. I’ve never had a problem until the last two weeks. Curious why the sudden change, other than just age or something. Cheese seems fine, although I’ve been limiting it but still slipping a bit.
Doritos are only for when I’m sad. Or I’ll eat sooo many. Haha.
Sorry about that @Copa. Frustrating I’m sure. Apparently milk is now my enemy. The last twos weeks any milk and I’m cramping.
I mentioned during my cramps the other day that I really shouldn’t have to have my period until I wish to reproduce, a switch perhaps, plus perfect birth control.
I skimmed it but that is interesting. There does seem to be a huge gap between the ability and access. The largest gap I find is in adoption. It does not cost an attorney 60k worth of their hours to prepare adoption documents yet that is an average rate. It is truly limiting and even if the money isn’t an issue that money should go into a college fund or further taking care of the child. Plenty of people who cannot lay out 60k plus make great parents who an support a child perfectly fine but they really limit it. There are resources for discounted pricing, help with payments, but you can imagine the amount of people who are in line for that. It is difficult enough to be approved to adopt before you even get to the payment time. While I would like to have at least one of my own husband and I would both love to adopt for many reasons, but the reality is the difficulty in doing for all the reasons may limit that. I already have one child to put through college and it is not fair to take away from him.
Even just getting the vasectomy reversal, the wait to so much as see a doctor is long. Heck my fertility dr was a 6 month wait! For reference, I went to get fertility testing before we committed. We didn’t want to go through with it only to find out that for some reason I couldn’t get pregnant. I will say that losing any stress on my part over MY ability to get pregnant has really helped…and stress is one of the biggest blocks for getting pregnant for many people as it directly affects fertility.
