Laurel
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@kmtthat I also had a similar meet the parents thing! It ended up being a fun trip though. Hope yours is good too 🙂
@HmC that is pretty interesting. I’m the opposite (from the Midwest and still live here) and was cracking up a little because the flakiest/most noncommittal guy I have dated (not just with me…that was sort of his reputation) just moved to California. Haha.
I do think there’s a difference between Midwestern smaller town/city and Midwestern bigger city, because more people move to cities to pursue their own ambitions, and maybe don’t even know where they’re gonna have jobs in a few years (like if they moved to the city for grad school). I would say though that most of my friends/acquaintances are either married/engaged/in serious relationships or very much looking, and that includes guys. But who knows how much of that is region/culture and how much is my friend group.
Curious what dating is like in Chicago, because it’s so big. I wonder if it’s more like NYC dating. Again, don’t really know because I’ve never lived in these places haha
I also talked about those things pretty early on (like a few months in). And I am under 26! Haha. It definitely helps if the other person has dropped some hints so you sort of know where they stand before the real talk, but even if not, might as well just go for it — it’s better to know if you’re totally not on the same page, so then you can move on (even though that situation still sucks).
Going to respectfully question a few of the above comments.
“If you don’t feel good about yourself no one else will. That’s it Veritek.”
It seems like you’re saying that the *sole* reason Veritek is single is that she doesn’t feel good about herself. I feel like there’s a lot of societal messaging surrounding this — that once you feel really really great about yourself, you’re definitely going to get into a great, happy, long-term relationship…but I don’t completely buy that. I think there are tons of sort of insecure people in relationships. I also think that you can be happy with yourself, but still be single when you don’t want to be. Others?“No more from here, write when you have awesome dates.”
What? Do you think Veritek should stop commenting, even though she’s the one who started the thread?“When it does not go your way or things get tough it seems like you make an excuse or blow it off with a shrug.”
This is actually the opposite of what I’ve read here — it seems to me like Veritek sometimes beats herself up way too much, but not others. She also seems to put lots of thought into dating situations, rather than blowing things off.“Sure you can say you listen but you have to as you are now putting out the flames of last weekend.”
Wait, so are you saying Veritek doesn’t follow dating advice? What examples are you thinking of? And by “putting out the flames” are you saying that you think Veritek behaved in a really unreasonable or stupid way? I’m just not seeing that based on what was written.
