lemongrass

I changed my last name. There wasn’t really much of a discussion- I always knew I wanted to. I did ask my husband before we got married if he would be upset if I didn’t. He said that he’d respect my decision, but yes he would be disappointed. I think that people have some surprising deep-down feelings about marriage that we wouldn’t really think that they do. Sometimes they don’t know why they have those feelings. While I don’t “like” my married name as much as I do my maiden name, I love having it. It does make me feel a bit more connected to my husband. I love that when you see our names on paper you know that we are married. I love being Mrs. X. I also really want our kids to have the same last name as both of us. Heritage is really important to both my husband and my dad- thats why I think it would be important to my husband for me to have his name. He’s also the only boy in his entire generation so the name ends with him if he doesn’t pass it on and he feels strongly about continuing it. As for my dad- every baby name we come up with he assesses whether it is “scandinavian” enough. I think my dad loves that my husband is from a neighbouring scandinavian country. Our best man speech even made a joke out of it.

Well, I rambled.