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I love rent the runway for weddings for the same reasons @Kmen said– I find if I buy a dress for a wedding, I drop a significant amount of $ and then never wear it again. With rent the runway, you can keep the max you are willing to spend pretty low (I usually don’t go above $50) and you get an amazing dress that is still nicer than what you could realistically afford, and you don’t have to worry about racking up all of these nice dresses in your closet you wear once and then don’t really wear again. I highly recommend.
I think I would have a hard time dating someone who did not like crowds as I enjoy going to music shows a lot– other crowds, I can kind of take or leave depending but in general, where I live, a lot of activities happen outdoors, with larger crowds and it would be limiting to be dating someone who didn’t like that. It can be worked around, but I think it ends up getting trying for both people after awhile.
Yay!! I love all of the great dating success stories right now.
Kmen so glad you are happy with this new dude.
I have a really good friend who has been single since we were 20 I think, and literally in the past 9 years has gone on maybe 3 dates and she refuses to try online dating. I really wish I could get her past the idea of thinking it is weird/only people who are desperate do it (which I think used to exist and isn’t there at ALL anymore). I know she wants to be in a relationship, but just won’t take the plunge. IDK a nice way to be like, just do it. I think to meet someone organically is really hard now a days because we are all so programmed to a) not pay attention to anything around us and b) think most people who approach us are creeps and not really give them the time of day. I am going to keep working on it, but kind of want to show her this thread so she will have a bit more confidence.
@veritek I think that is really cute.
Thanks guys! We have been together about 3 years, just a shade under. We are working with a really short time line and I am not sure how it will all come together, but exciting to think about nonetheless.
@Kmen, maybe its too soon for another relationship, but I think a date would actually be good. When I had my awful horrible breakup, what was now like 7 years ago eek, I went out with someone I had had a crush on for awhile, about 2 months after the break up… we dated on and off for like 6 months, super casual before actually embarking on a relationship, and honestly it was perfect. I was in no place for a relationship at that time, but the hooking up, talking, flirting, dates, were really great to take my mind off things. I was still really depressed and in love with my ex and mourning and getting over things, but being with this other guy helped a shit ton. It was just easy peasy and distracted me. So as long as you know yourself and what you are capable of, you should be good to go. If it is too soon for you to even be dating, I think you’ll know that by the end of the date and can move forward accordingly.
Also @Ktfran I was really weird about giving in/letting my boyfriend give me bigger things when we first got together, now, it is like what is mine is mine what is yours is yours. He bought half the furniture in my living room because I was too broke at the time and has given me lots of stuff he doesn’t need/use anymore. I get the feeling weird about it, but its almost more awkward if you don’t accept it. Also it benefits him if you are watching tv together at your house, so he may have a slight ulterior motive 🙂 big step though and i get how uncomfortable that is.
my boyfriend and I are finally talking about moving in together, and actually moving away together to a new city for my graduate school, and it is really scary but really exciting. it is early stages yet, but i really hope it all comes together. I have never lived with anyone I have been dating, but I think we are ready.
I get what you are saying to an extent@ Cleopatra– like if my boyfriend and I broke up today and I moved on and whatever, there are still certain girls I know who if he moved on to date them it would just irk me to some extent, like a why her type of thing. Although I think this would be more if I were still not 100% over him… but that just may be a personal thing. That said, and I think you know this, he can date whoever he wants, and you have already taken the appropriate steps to kind of block the knowledge from you, so I think a one off rant is a pretty harmless way to vent. Hopefully your new relationship continues to progress and you won’t even think on it in a little while.
I love sweet potatoes. I make baked sweet potatoes but make them savory, like with regular potatoes and add greek yogurt as a sour cream sub (tastes the exact same, especially the 2%) and some butter, salt, pepper, garlic and it is so delicious. Never tried savory mashed sweet potoates– I actually *hate* sweet potatoes when they are sweet, like at Thanksgiving with the marshmallows and brown sugar. No thanks.
@kare that is EXACTLY how all of my friends husbands/fiances/boyfriends are and it seriously unnerves me when we are out doing something and they are berating their boyfriends to remember sunscreen and stupid little shit that any grown adult should be capable of doing/remembering themselves. My one friend did her boyfriend’s laundry and cleaned his house for basically the first 6 years of their relationship (they did not live together until they were married), and now that they are married I am sure she does the same– it works for them like you said but I really just can’t stand that dynamic and it is like they all want to replace their mom’s who did everything with their wives who will continue to do everything for them. I am dating a guy who is 5 years older than me and incredibly independent and the difference between him and my friends significant others is incredibly apparent when we are all hanging out together. It is definitely a dynamic that works much better for me.
@Trixy I really love your outlook on dating. I think that is the way you will actually find someone to be with more long-term, not having it as the ultimate goal.
@Veritek– I am SO sorry about your dad 🙁 that is seriously so terrible and I am so glad he will be okay. I feel so sorry you can’t just catch a fucking break. I don’t have any advice for how to deal with your mom, except to say, maybe just focus on your dad and try to zone her out, to the best of your ability or just agree with whatever she says but don’t have an actual reaction. Like she is picking at you or giving you shit and just go “Okay mom, thanks sounds good” and ignore and refocus on your dad. I am definitely sending lots of good thoughts your way. Hugs!
@theladye @veritek thank you for your kind thoughts. last night was the first time i have felt like myself for months and it was so nice, like really i just am going to keep doing the things that have been helping and pray that I don’t slide back in to the hole again. it is comforting to know people have felt that. I have talked to a few friends about it, but they just don’t get it because they’ve never been depressed, nor my boyfriend. So, people just think I am being bummed or “sad” for no reason and are like oh have you tried this and this and this, and its just like ughh I know they mean well, but its not really helpful. For some reason, when I am massively depressed the thing that has always been what helps me for at least a bit better is walking, not jogging or other exercise, just like extremely long walks. I mean 2 hours or longer. So trying to work that in to my schedule for the next few weeks.
veritek your weekend sounds awesome! i have been really wanting a tattoo for awhile now but feel like it would look stupid if i just got one ha so i have held off. maybe sometime in the near future i will take the plunge.
i am at my work office putting together a portfolio for my grad application right now and trying to use indesign which i have no idea what i am doing 🙁 hopefully it turns out good and youtube can be helpful.
I have been very depressed since October and have felt every so often like I was edging out of it, but it really hit a head the past two weeks where it has been very terrible. I think I showered twice in a week and essentially stopped eating because I just couldn’t. Basically would get home from work and get straight in to bed. Anyways I do feel like *maybe* I don’t want to jinx it, I am feeling better, my appetite has come back today and I have been taking really really long walks with my dog that have helped. So this weekend, there are a few fun events going on and I want to go out and actually be able to enjoy myself and have fun, vs just going through the motions and acting like it. It is also going to be in the 60s, after we got 20 inches of snow last weekend, hello global warming, so I am going to spend a lot of my weekend outside and working on DIY projects and some woodworking and finishing my application to graduate school which is due Monday!
