muchachaenlaventana
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So I think this is not that complicated. The facts– Veritek and this dude spent a great weekend together, him just saying “I can’t come to you for the next month because I am insanely slammed” doesn’t secretly mean he doesn’t want to see her or wouldn’t love to see her, he is just giving her a heads up if he seems more distant or isn’t offering to come down again, that is why. Until his actions stop backing what he is saying, I would just enjoy this for what it is and live a bit more in the moment.
Sometimes people get busy, even when they are first dating and are legit very interested in someone. Not everyone is the type to drop things or do anything to make time with someone, even if they really like them, when they have just met and begun to get to know one another! Maybe he didn’t say “I can’t come down for the next month but would love to see you so lets plan a Sunday thing or maybe you can come up here if its not too much” or whatever, because it has been 3 dates and maybe he doesn’t want to come on too strong and they had just banged and spent a great evening/day together and he just assumed it was implied they would work out seeing one another before then, even given his busy schedule. Maybe he didn’t want to make Ver feel like its all on her to come up and so was giving her sort of a heads up/disclaimer when he isn’t offering to come visit her.
Omg!! Never again can you use being in a parking lot as an excuse for a dude who didn’t put the moves on your sexy self. I’m SO happy for you. Do you all have any plans for a second date? Yay!!!
@veritek that is pretty sweet he thought of that! Yay for new dresses. I am having a really shitty time right now personally dealing with some insecurities in my relationship and just being pretty confused, and reading everyone’s dating stories is really keeping me entertained! Thanks guys and keep them coming.
Ha so funny, I would have slept with more people too or just been less rigid about what I considered “okay”. I was such a prude and damn I was hot and the boys wanted that shit. Be safe about it, but have fun! Those experiences and spontaneous things you do are what you remember going forward. I rarely remember the boring nights I stayed in or abstained from drinking for whatever reason, I remember the nights things got wild and I just went with it.
I agree with the advice about being practical to an extent–I think if you have the forethought you can be practical and do something you enjoy or possibly love… I didn’t really give two thoughts to my life outside of college and so wound up in a shitty position with basically nothing going for me and now 6 years later wanting to finally break in to the field I realized I want to be in, I am pretty much SOL because I have no experience or qualifications. Sorry if this is downer advice.
Also if you have the opportunity now for a crazy adventure, take it! I had a crazy adventure when I was 24 and it was the best year of my life and something I will always remember. If you can stretch that adventure out, do it, I returned home for practical reasons and sometimes wish I hadn’t.
Second on birth control. One of my best friends got pregnant at 22 and it didn’t ruin her life, and her baby daughter is just a beautiful little thing, but it was a shitty situation for a long time and now she is 26 and a single mom and really struggles.
22 isn’t old, I remember I thought 22 was so old, 23 24 25 etc. but it isn’t you are still so young and have so much ahead of you!
