Rangerchic

I used to be a cat person but now I’m more of a dog person. It started with the dogs we now have – we have 2. Just something about them…but my husband was on bored with getting them. However, he says once they are gone no more dogs. But I’m not sure about that. I think I would miss having a dog way to much so I’ll likely be able to talk him into it as long as we find the right dog. I love all animals so a no-pet person would not have been a match for me!

I think the LW feels ashamed/embarrassed because this is what our society tells us we should feel. For some reason, adults who have kids are also judged by the actions of their kids. Not saying it’s right just saying that the pressure is real. Such as, kids must go to college, kids must play 3 sports, play a instrument, join 2 clubs and volunteer on top of it – take lots of AP classes, get a head start on college, etc. Unfortunately, the pressure then creates situations like this LW and her son are in.

But I agree with the other posters, LW. You son is his own person and needs to be himself and figure things out for himself with no more pressure from you. Just love your son for who he is and let him live his life. Don’t feel embarrassed at all and if your friends make you feel that way, get better friends.

Loved reading all the updates since getting back from vacation! (I kinda missed reading while gone:)

Glad to be back home but now it’s back to work and all that.

But even if there were some small warning signs, how do you know where it’s going to go? No one would ever think that they are going to be broken up with 3 days after getting married! Holy cow. That is some bat shit crazy right there – what kind of person do you have to be to go along with something like that?
Did y’all read the DP (dear prudence) where the LW was sick every single time after eating at her MIL’s? She tried talking to her husband and he tried to make her seem crazy so one day she switched her plate with her husbands and he was the one to get sick. (but also, when you have people over for dinner who fixes all the plates in advance? I think that’s weird) There are some crazy MIL’s out there – most of the time they seem to be the moms of men. I’m pretty lucky with my MIL – other than she doesn’t have any friends so therefore uses her son (my husband) as a sounding board for everything.

@Jade – I’m sorry your going through that. And who knows why people do that kind of crap? About a month ago, my best friend texted me that her husband just left her. Like they came home from work and talked like normal for a while then when she mentioned looking at something over the weekend he said that they needed to talk and proceeded with he thinks they need a divorce. She later (in the evening) found out he had cleared out all of his things from the house (closet, his office, etc.). So obviously he’d been planning it for awhile. They’ve been married at least 10 years or so. Who does that? There were no warning signs, even now looking back there really weren’t any. I hear the heartbreak, the anguish, the hurt and anger in her voice when we talk (we live 12 hrs apart). Sorry to hear your going through something similar. I’m being as supportive as I can being so far away so I hope you can find someone close to lean on.

This…made my day! I would be mortified if I did that to myself while visiting people, especially people I didn’t know well. WEES. But, also, who picks up a random brush and starts brushing their hair? That’s weird!