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And again, I’ll point out that he was able to overcome his condition when it was for something that’s important to him. He left his parents and went to a whole new city. He CAN do it. He just doesn’t want to.
Agree with everyone else. The details of his disorder are good background, but really it doesn’t matter why he behaves the way he does. It still affects you the same way whether he’s just selfish or has a disorder or a mix of the two. It still means you aren’t getting the life you want for yourself.
Some people are the kind of people who are happy to take care of others. Who don’t have much of a plan for themselves and are happy to follow someone else’s. That’s what a guy like this needs. Not someone who wants the normal give-and-take that most relationships require. It sounds like he’s very willing to take, as long as he only has to give what he’s comfortable with. That’s not fair to you. Go back to school and start your life on your own terms. Find someone who’s happy to change to fit your life as much as you change to fit his. There are plenty of guys with hearts of gold who don’t expect you to make huge sacrifices while giving nothing in return.
Further to Kate’s point, get a good pair of sunglasses and wear them! Seriously, I have sensitive eyes so I squint a lot in the sun, and I think wearing sunglasses all the time (and therefore never squinting) has saved me from crow’s feet, for a few extra years at least. I turn 40 this year and you can hardly see any lines around my eyes. Even if your eyes aren’t as sensitive as mine, everyone squints a bit in the sun.
My mom had 5 kids in 6 years. My brother and I are “Irish twins”, we were literally born in the same calendar year, just under 11 months apart. There are gaps of about 1.75 years between the rest of the kids. We all got along really well growing up. The three boys had some fighting among them – the oldest and youngest each always wanted to play with the middle one. My sister and I were really close. She grew away from the family as she hit highschool, I don’t know what happened. Some kind of anxiety or mental strain or something, from the way she talks about it. But she won’t really discuss it so we don’t know. The other four of us are still close though. I loved having so many siblings.
