Regina Chapman
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You understand that now you’ll have to tell us everything, right?
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‘I’ll hang back a bit and see what he “figures out.”’
That sounds like a wise thing to do:).
Are you keeping other options open, too, or just concentrating on the move for now?Moneypenny, how was your date?
hfantods, I don’t know where your thing is going to go, but you definitely sound like you’ll figure it out:)
D’aww, thank you! It was very wonderful, with friends, cake, wine and Indian food. And a tiny bit of nausea this morning.
Have you managed to stop the worry train yet? 🙂
And Monneypenny, I’d be a little annoyed, too. If someone asked me out I’d expect to hear a time and a place from them, without repeated prompting. Hopefully he’ll step up!
I’m with Ale, that’s why I was sort of trying to slow the worry train:)
Look, this guy has gone out of his way so far to make it clear he’s into you! Your dates have been perfect! He gets up early with you to make sure you get coffee! If that isn’t a sign he’s into you, I don’t know what is.
If I’m getting you correctly, what happened is:
– you said goodbye after an amazing ‘date’/weekend;
– he said he’s busy for the next 4-5 weekends;
– you said that was a bummer;
– he was apologetic (but didn’t offer an alternative plan).From the above, I’d think the clearest (and most honest/direct) communication step is to get back at him and tell him ‘hey, you know, that part where you said you’d be busy for the next 4-5 weeks…that bummed me out. I’d love to see you sooner. Is there a way we can make that happen?’
And from there, wait for what he offers up (don’t fill in the blanks for him or have an offer ready). Just be open to his reaction. It will tell you if he’s interested (active, concrete brainstorming) or not. And THAT’S when you *might*, *could*, *possibly* encounter something to worry about…not now:).
Yes! No! Absolutely!
I totally agree with you both. I was trying to add a bit of perspective though, because I feel that maybe the moment when they’ll get back in touch and try to hash out their next meeting more in depth, is in the future. Just trying to save veritek some ‘before the fact’ worrying:).
Kate said: “If he’s saying, look, I’m busy for the next 4-5 weeks,” and you’re saying “aww, I’d love to see you sooner,” and he then says, “you know, so would I, how can we make this work?” then great, offer to come up there again. But if he’s not saying that, and changing the subject and whatnot, then I say pull back.”
I agree, but are we there yet, veritek? I mean, up until now he has sounded nothing but interested and thoughtful, right? I wouldn’t make the leap to ‘potentially uninterested’ so soon, especially after such a great weekend that’s only *just* over! Of course, I’m with Kate on the ‘he should put the same effort in’ front; I’m just saying it seems a little early to be thinking/worrying along those lines:).
Veritek, happy birthday and happy awesome date!! This guy sounds so nice, and considerate, and just overall wonderful. I hope you two can work out a way to see each other (semi) regularly!
(Also, we’re almost birthday sisters…my birthday is today:))
ktfran, I think a note in this case would be really nice. Think of it this way: the note is already a big step for you, right? So it’s kind of dipping your toes into this vulnerability thing without having to go all out on the first try. Besides, he’ll probably come back to you with a ‘So…I found your note’ or something, and then you can just go with that flow and see what you want to add:).
That’s awesome, Floats! Both the guy and the dates sound great!
