Ridgebacklover
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Oh OP – I feel for you. Regardless of what people on here say, you are NOT selfish for declining to do your sister a huge favor. You are totally entitled to say no as you did not choose to have said child, and having a family does not entitle your sister to free childcare (which it sounds like she gets quite a bit). It is a nice thing to do, but it is not your obligation.
And I don’t believe she said her dog eats children, just that her dog doesn’t like them which is okay because the OP does not have a child! A lot of dogs don’t like children, and there are plenty of perfectly legit reasons for a dog to feel that way. It is her dog in her childfree house.
And I don’t know where people are getting that OP agreed on watching the kid and is now going back on it. That is not what she said (until she was practically bullied into agreeing to it on this board). OP – not wanting to spend your Friday night with your sister’s 2 year old (a trying age for anyone) is totally understandable. No one has the right to be mad at you for saying no. And even if you agreed to it, it is your right to change your mind at any time, even on the day of (not advisable or nice, but still your right).
Look, it’s the nice and accommodating thing to do, but it doesn’t make you a horrible person for not providing free childcare. People are so crazy when it comes to children – you do not get special rights or additional favors because you popped a child out! Should people choose to help you, that is very nice of them but you are certainly not entitled to it and it doesn’t make anyone selfish or lacking in compassion should they choose to not help every single time.
She might be right honestly – does anyone really enjoy being around their children 24/7? Everyone needs a break sometimes – doesn’t make her a bad mom, just human. Regardless, I see both sides but your sister and mom seem to think you owe her free childcare. You don’t.
Agreed it sounds like the sister might be getting favoritism because grandkids! It’s nice to help out but you certainly don’t have to, especially since clearly have a lot going on yourself. If it helps, overnight visits really are easier. But as someone whose dog also doesn’t like children (which is totally understandable), I know what a pain it is. If you decide to babysit, you could just keep your dog in your bedroom until the kid goes to sleep (early bedtime!). Just a suggestion.Wow – while I agree you should probably just do it, do not let these other comments get to you. Your sister chose to have a child, and that is not your problem or responsibility. Yes, it’s nice to help her out, but she is not entitled to free childcare. That doesn’t mean you “lack compassion.” Geez
You don’t need an excuse. Your plan for Friday could be netflix with a bottle of wine, and it doesn’t mean you HAVE to watch HER child. You don’t need to feel guilty about saying no. I don’t see why she couldn’t have secured a babysitter. It is not your problem. Obviously, it would be nice for you to help her out but you are not obligated. I hate when people choose to have children and then expect family members to take care of them – not saying that’s the case but sure sounds like it.
