savannah

For anyone who wants to change their last name to their husbands I say go for it. You can be a feminist and have a more traditional marriage, thats what feminism is all about-making choices that work for you. But I can’t imagine wanting or needing to convince your wife to take your last name under any kind of pressure,  its such a personal thing. I’ve talked to so many women who regretted or had a very hard time after the husbands made it a big deal while their husbands are looking or expecting them to rejoice in the transformation. It’s such a miss-match of expectations and ideals that unless the wife is enthusiastically consenting to it I don’t see how its a great foundation to go into a marriage with.  Wouldn’t you only want your wife to be ecstatic about taking on your name?  The larger issue is of course its not an appropriate topic of conversation until you’re in too deep. I think many women cave in to these requests because there are already past the point of walking away and deal with the repercussions later and in silence.