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If I was your partner, I’d be most upset you didn’t wait a few minutes for me to get out of the bathroom then say you’d like the dog to sleep elsewhere. It sounds like you did it to punish both of them because you were feeling annoyed.
The relationship doesn’t sound functional for either of you, so please don’t get pregnant as I think you’d use that as a weapon try and to bully him into giving up the dog. Hormones can make you more irritable and less able to deal with stress, but they’re no excuse to treat people badly and then be upset they don’t want to deal with you.Earlier people were asking for a medical opinion, I’m late to the thread as was running a delivery suite! I’ve been an obstetric doctor for 10 years and it’s true that labour at 37/40 is not that common in a nullip, however anything can happen at any time in a pregnancy and often very quickly. A normal pregnancy is something we can only really say in hindsight once the postnatal period of 6 weeks is complete and nothing bad has happened. I don’t think statistics can be useful in deciding something like this as pregnancy is so unpredictable.
When we have women going into labour or another complication with their partner not there (or drunk, being unsupportive and argumentative or occasionally violent) they can be very stressed and some struggle to make important decisions as they want their partner to be there to do it with them. It’s an overwhelming time in a woman’s life and they often have fears and convictions that something is going to go terribly wrong that they may not have even shared with their partner until that moment.
It’s really good that you are going to stay home and find another way of being involved in the wedding. In addition I would make plans to do something special with your wife that day, as soon it will no longer be just the two of you. And never bring it up in the future unless it is to say what a wonderful time you had with her and that it was the right decision to stay home (even if at 42/40 you are having a post dates induction of labour and no-one can believe the baby hasn’t arrived yet!).
