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Thank you Cleo. That dog was my baby. It’ll be two weeks tomorrow and damn I miss him. He was the best.
I hope everyone had a lovely holiday. I have a wedding update! Or more of a family dynamics update.
On Christmas Eve we spent the evening with MofV’s family and extended family. (I love his Aunt) We found out that sister has never moved in with her fiancée, their lease started I think right after Thanksgiving, and they didn’t speak for almost two weeks after he left her hanging on a bill for the wedding or apartment.
We didn’t’ get any other details. But I’m glad we didn’t move our wedding date because at this point I don’t’ know if her wedding is going to happen. She seemed very sad on Christmas eve and I actually felt bad for her.
Otherwise it a was a nice quiet holiday other than having to put down my dog I’ve had for 12.5 years. That was a really, really hard day.
Fuck. MG, I’m sorry.
MG! Yay congrats! Hopefully you can get away with some sparkling grape juice in a fancy glass and no one will be the wiser. Hope everything goes smoothly.
@LadyE sounds like a lovely time you’re having! He sounds great.
@Copa I hope they vote in your favor because your dog is adorbs and needs to live there.
Only update I have is that MofV got a promotion and pay increase and that lowers all of our stress levels going into this wedding (in 94 days)
Thanksgiving was great! Despite brining my rescue Ativan I didn’t need it! Fiancée’s family respected our wishes and not a single word about weddings was discussed! We even went to see fiancé’s sister’s apartment and she was pleasant. I’m wondering if either her parents had a word with her or she’s finally starting to understand that her wedding doesn’t put everyone else’s lives on hold? Either way, we survived thanksgiving. Until I hurt my back at the gym on Sunday and now I’m on fun muscle relaxers lol.
We hosted an open house thanksgiving on Saturday for my family and friends and MoV is always in awe of how we pull together an entire meal and then he gets drunk on bourbon ciders and tells me how much he loves me all day and how grateful he is I can cook a turkey because he can’t lol. I love thanksgiving with him 🙂
How’s everyone doing? Any one meeting the folks this Thanksgiving? I’m curious how the holidays are shaping up for everyone as I’m dreading ours lol. I typically host and last year we had MofV’s entire family up to eat with us as well and I just don’t know what to do this year. I typically have an open door policy/everyone is invited to Thanksgiving so I can’t really say everyone but his sister. Or I guess I could? I have no idea.
Haven’t spoken to future SIL since the blow up dinner in August but she made sure to send us a text letting us know that she got the save the date (yes she is still invited) and that we are adorable. Well, yeah, we are, thanks. But are we just going to pretend you didn’t call us terrible, horrible people that were ruining your life? Is this your way of apologizing? MofV and I are baffled and simply responded with a “Thanks” text.
Not sure what to make of it. So does anyone have any happy holiday relationship updates?
@scorpio I’m so sorry. That just sucks. You can be sad but it will get better with time. Good thoughts your way.
I agree with Copa and Scorpio. Even if you’re compatible sexually it just sounds like maybe this one ran it’s course and you’re having second thoughts. I’d tread super lightly.
@Copa – I’m sorry to hear about your friend, you’re right she didn’t deserve that. And I know it’s not a popular stance but I’d run an online dates name though the state court records before I went out with them. Saved me from going on a date with a guy that had a restraining order out on him from his ex wife.
And I’m glad you like our preview, I was worried about outfits for a while but we ended up with something we both liked.
MofV’s sister is 31 – and I just can’t anymore. I’m done trying. I’ve apologized, I’ve extended Olive branches, I bought her and MOV’s Mom some Disney swag from my part time job and she still acts this way because our wedding is before hers.
My mom was on call a lot as a kid so I can’t speak as the spouse. She investigated child abuse as a DFS worker so she’d get pages at all times of day and night. When she got a page on Christmas eve and had to remove some kids from their home rather than being with me and my dad – that’s when she put in her notice. Hopefully BG’s job isn’t as demanding. I was “on call” when I worked in politics but it typically wasn’t too bad. I think it all depends on the company.
@Copa – that seems like enough of a red flag to walk away for your friend. You dont’ like about being married/being a widower.
MofV and I took engagement photos yesterday and had so much fun and loved the previews. We also had both sets of parents out to the winery where we are getting married to see the spaces and meet with the new coordinator. It was such a relief that his parents were able to come and be excited for us and see the space and they loved it as much as we did. His mom said after seeing it she understands even more just how different our wedding will be from his sisters.
Unfortunately, while I was walking my parents to their car MofV was asking his mom if his sister has calmed down any about the wedding dates. His mom actually teared up and said she’s just such a wild card right now. She can be sweet one day and so so mean the next day – particularly mean to mom. They told sister where they were going yesterday (to come see us and the winery) and she was just hateful and rude to them for wanting to go be excited for their son and his wedding. It made MofV feel so crappy and he said to me later “Is it so wrong for me to have a day and have my family be excited for me?” And my heart just breaks for him. I made it clear to him that I never want to be the reason why he doesn’t have a relationship with his sister. His mom apparently encouraged him/us to sit down with her and her fiancé and try to talk things out again but MofV and I agree that there’s no point. It won’t be productive and it’ll just be another opportunity for me to be painted as the bad guy and so maybe in a year or so after the weddings are over.
@Copa she has to one up us somehow so go for it girl. Spend all of yours and your parents money on a wedding and two big parties for a marriage that we have all placed bets on not lasting more than five years. (Her father wanted in on that bet as well…..)
