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Thank you Kare, I’ll be thinking of you, your brother and your family and friends.
@MissDre I’ve been quiet because I have no advice in this situation and I think everyone has given you really good advice. And I think it shows great maturity and rational thinking to NOT send the angry email. I’m glad you didn’t and as cliché and stupid as it sounds, I’m proud of you for not sending it.
@MG Your BBQ sounds awesome!
@Kare I’m so sorry about whats going on. I can’t even watch the news today.As for me, my mom’s best friend died very unexpectedly yesterday. She was like a second mother to me and I’m absolutely heartbroken. I think I cried more last night than I have in ten years. She was a kind and gentle soul who would do anything for anyone, and she died far too young. She loved three things as much as her family – black coffee, a cigarette (even though she quit smoking years ago she would sneak one occasionally, including on Thanksgiving at my house) and cheesecake. So if you have time today and enjoy any of those things, if you wouldn’t mind, have one for my second mom.
@kare that so exciting about your vacation! I’ve only solo vacationed once and it was domestically (Boston) and it was great for the first 3-4 days but after that I was ready to go home. I don’t know if it’s my personality or living alone for the last 10 years but after the first few days I was ready to hang out with someone lol. That said, it was still a blast and I hope you have a great time in Iceland!
@MissDre yes that line of work has to make things kinda tough! But it does sound like he’s very interested and is making sure you know he’s interested, so I think that’s positive. Just make the best of the time you have together.Let’s see, the weekend…. Worked Friday night but had a great crew that night so it was fun. Saturday I went to crossfit and then took my little sister to see a movie because it was pouring rain and we had a great time and ate too much popcorn! Sunday I worked again but it wasn’t too bad because again, great crew that made the time go fast. Bought myself a new little black dress because I have a date I’m actually excited about later this week(!)
And yesterday I got a lot done around the house and then met up with about a dozen friends to watch the fireworks and had a great time. I’ve gone two weeks without alcohol or much carbs so after having two beers last night I have a Fourth of July hangover lol. But it was worth it. Back on track today!
@MissDre four hours isn’t too awful but I know it’s not great. I dated a guy 3 hours away and it was just too much because he just wasn’t as into it as I was and willing to travel to make it work. It sounds like your guy is more willing to do so!
Hold onto the butterfly feeling, it’s the best 🙂
@MissDre that sounds very nice! How far is long distance? A couple hours?
@Cleopatra sorry for your sore throat!
@kare I make no secret of the fact that I got INCREDIBLY lucky with my house purchase. It’s literally a quarter mile from my old house and I used to walk my dogs by it all the time and see that perfect porch and swing and say “if that house is ever up for sale, I should go look”. And then a for sale sign showed up in the yard. And I had no intention of house hunting or even selling, but I got a realtor and looked at it and loved it even harder. So then I thought “okay i’ll make an offer contingent upon selling my house”. Never thinking I’d sell my house in three days. TOTAL LUCK. (and I busted my ass to get my old house ready to put on the market in a single weekend lol).
However, I looked at more than 30 houses when I was house shopping in 2009 and I totally remember the frustration. I fell in love with too many houses that were just out of my budget range until I found the house I lived in for six years. Just be patient, keep socking away money and enjoy it. I love looking at houses and was a little sad that by impulse purchasing a house I only got to look at one!
If you’re ever in my neck of the woods, come on by and we’ll have tea on the porch.
@cleopatra That porch swing is about 75% of the reason I bought the house! lol My favorite thing is to go out every evening and sit on the swing and maybe read a chapter of a book if It’s not too dark (and when it gets dark I installed solar twinkle lights so my front porch is pretty much my favorite place ever). My street is very quiet and all older houses and you can hear kids playing down the street. It’s like friggin Pleasantville in my neighborhood. It’s the cheapest therapy in the world.
@Kare – I’m so sorry to hear that about your brother. I’ll keep him in my thoughts and hope that he gets through this weekend okay. I know fireworks are hard for PTSD. Hugs to you.
@kmtthat YES. “4 days off is really hard when you are lonely/depressed” – absolutely. Totally get it (the lonely more so than the depressed because my depression has really been under control lately which is a kind of awesome and new thing for me, but I’ve been where you are and totally get it). I don’t dread 4th of July as much as other holidays, but with my new family dynamics – I’m not spending the holiday with them, and most of my married friends with kids already have plans and so I didn’t even think to ask people until yesterday and today what they are doing and I found that a lot of them are going out of town or made plans thinking I already had plans. I should has asked sooner or just made plans but I didn’t. So I’ll go do the funnel cake thing because that’s tradition, but I picked up an extra shift on Sunday to work so I’m not spending the entire weekend figuring out what to do.
I treatedmyself to a nice bottle of wine on my morning grocery run so maybe I’ll sit on my porch swing and have a glass this weekend 🙂
Totally understand your frustrations Sararosie
I don’t have plans for this weekend other than to get a funnel cake with my friend downtown. I’m sure there will be a group gathering to watch fireworks and I’ll probably join.
Not a lot of dates lately, possibly one next week, working out the details as he’ll be returning from the Chicago area either Tuesday or Wednesday. Might take part of the weekend to paint another room in my house.
I’m sorry @sararosie, that’s such a shit thing to do
@Copa I’m reading that right now! So far he’s hitting the nail on the head 100% Online dating has just really changed how people act it seems.
@sararosie I don’t think it would hurt to reach out but I wouldn’t hold your breath for the date. Either he’s got a lot going on or he’s maybe not as interested as he thought he was? I don’t know I’m trying to figure out the timeline and if you were supposed to do something this weekend I would be anxious too if I hadn’t heard anything from him.
I’m a fan of the thank your text if I’m interested, but I’ve found that some guys are quick to send one themselves when they are interested too.
