veritek33
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I think you’re right ktfran. I’ll just have to woman-up.
the best way to compare it would be that episode of sex and the city where Miranda dates the trainer at the gym and he’s totally into her when she seems insecure but when she owns that she a beautiful powerful woman he thinks she’s full of herself and doesn’t want to see her anymore.
@kate like when I’ve shown you the messages I get when I tell guys what I do and then they say things like “oh, so you must be really smart or really rich?”HamSandwich, admittedly, intimidates me. He’s REALLY smart and impressive to me since I’ve dated some real losers. Though I was teasing him/joking with him one time and said “Would you like the privilege/honor of seeing me this week?” and his response was “Sure!” Maybe his reactions would be totally different?
oh Kate. yeah. that’s a possibility. I don’t have the highest self esteem at all, though I do think I’ve gotten better over the years. It just seems like when I’m bold and confident sometimes it backfires.
Maybe I can take a shot of tequila and some ativan and just go straight for the tongue down the throat. Thoughts? 😉
@nookie no offense taken. I think I DO give off mixed signals too. It’s really hard for me to put myself in vulnerable situations and really hard for me to open myself up so I think I give off a very guarded vibe. I’ve been working on trying to let that down a bit.
And I love that you went with HamSandwich. #personalfave
@nookie lol yeah, now that you mention it, there probably is a pattern there. Damn my predictability.
@kate part of my master plan is that this ice cream place is ALWAYS packed and closes at 6. I live about a mile away so I thought if it’s packed (it will be) I tell him we can take the ice cream back to my patio if he’d like and he can meet my dogs. If he says no, then we probably have an answer.@booknerd yes, he knows that’s on the table so I want to see what he says toward the end of the date with regards to those options or something else.
Let’s see if I can remember. Dates one and two he planned. Three and four were my ideas. 5 was a lunch date, his idea. 6 was a day that I picked and an activity he picked. So I guess an equal amount of planning but I do think maybe I’ve prompted a bit more? If that makes sense?
As for the kissing, I’ve done this before. My last ex took 8 dates to kiss me because I absolutely SUCK at making the first move, so this isn’t foreign territory, just somewhat disappointing. I could be wrong, But I do think that some of it might be that he’s a very private person and would never do public displays of affection (that’s just the vibe I’m picking up from him) so other than the last date where I didn’t pick up the signals, I think part of the reason for lack of kissing has been lack of private location to do so.
I could be way off on all of this, that’s just the sense that I have.
@mrmid you’re so cute with your girlfriend! I hope you guys have an awesome airport date tonight!!
And to echo Kate, I’m totally up for more opinions. You out there @Wendy? I’d love to hear your input too!
I’m so sorry @Kare. That sucks so hard. I’ve been stood up before and you have to remember, it’s not about you. Something was going on for that guy that he couldn’t show up and be a decent human being.
Your next birthday is going to be better already! You date when you’re ready.
As for my “problems” after sleeping on it I’m now wondering if I should even say anything to lawyer guy. This is very confusing. Dating is very confusing lol.
well crap. now I’m jealous 😉
OMG ktfran that sounds so adorable. I hope you make out under the fireworks. Too soon?
well I can always throw out that homecooked meal and movie for this weekend. Those were two of his three options that would really be better on a weekend rather than a weeknight anyway.
