It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Girl from the Bar,” whose letter appeared in a “His Take” column when she wrote in wondering if a guy she met in a bar and hooked up with later that night was only interested in her for the sex since he wasn’t texting her each and every day.
Before Wendy posted this (and thanks very much to you as well), I already came to the same conclusion everyone else did – that I’m being a crazy girl. I don’t like being a crazy girl. I listened to friends, who said he was only in it for sex, and I freaked out. Also, I have baggage from a past relationship I’ve been working through for a couple years. Who doesn’t, right? I thought I was finally OK and ready to date again. Apparently not. These things weren’t sitting well with me and I started over-thinking.
I ended up going out with him again. I told him I liked him. I got the impression he sensed I started to freak out. He was spot on. We’ve been out a couple times since and have a lot of fun together. I’ve chilled out, I’m treading lightly, and having fun. No more crazy and I feel more at peace and I’m trying to remember to take things as they come.
Sometimes it really does help to get a male perspective.
Oh, and I loved him bringing me beer on our first date instead of flowers. It was a nice touch. Remember that all you single boys who read this blog.
Thanks for the update!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.