In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
This would all be fine except for certain things. First, she’s gotten him, in my opinion, inappropriate Christmas/birthday gifts. Things like a really expensive pair of gloves or an expensive backpack. It seems like too much money to spend on just a friend. Second, they hang out a lot alone, and while I don’t think he’s cheating on me with her, I think it’s disconcerting that they’re getting so close. Third, she lives near him and it would be much easier for him to date her as opposed to someone who isn’t 4 hours away (i.e. me). Fourth, he’s admitted to me (while we were drinking, but by no means drunk) that if we broke up, she would be his “second choice.” I was really upset with that and he said that he only said that because he doesn’t think he could date someone he wasn’t friends with first.
That last point really pained me and now whenever they’re together, I get anxious and upset. My boyfriend says that I’m being silly and I basically need to get over it. Am I being crazy?? Or justified? And if I’m crazy, how can I fix how I’m feeling towards this girl?? I don’t want to upset him, but I also don’t want to sit here and sulk about it. Help! — First Choice but Still Anxious