It’s Wedding Week on Dear Wendy! This week will be chock-full of wedding columns, gift guides, dollar dances and an open bar. If you love wedding content, this is your lucky week. If you hate wedding content, this is your lucky week because–-open bar! But just kidding about the open bar.
So what do you think? Can I ask? And if yes, what should I say? — Plus One Required
This is definitely a special circumstance that falls outside “traditional wedding etiquette” and I think it’s perfectly acceptable for you to make mention of your special needs and requirements as a wedding guest in a wheelchair. Hopefully, you will be extended a plus-one and won’t have to worry about anything, but, if you aren’t, I’d send a quick message to the bride/groom (whomever you’re closer to), saying: “Hi! Hope you’re doing well and that wedding planning is going smoothly. I just received your invitation and am so looking forward to celebrating your special day with you and the rest of your friends and family. I do have a special request that I hope won’t be too much of a burden. As you know, I’m in a wheelchair and, while I’m very independent, there are some activities and events in which I require some assistance — a wedding, especially one that I travel to — being among those. Because I would hate to miss this occasion, I would be happy to pay for the cost of an additional guest if you’d consider extending a “plus-one” to me so that I could bring a date who will help me navigate travel and a wedding in a wheelchair. Thank you for understanding, and, again, I hope this request isn’t too much of a burden!”
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