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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. How do I stop my husband’s rudeness? He is constantly interrupting me, telling me that I don’t know what I’m talking about, or talking about me while I’m standing right there, as if I am not there or I’m a child. I finally had to quit my job because there were too many complaints about his texting and calling me at…

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 years. We both have children in their early 20s and in college. Mine is away at school and his live at home. We’ve discussed getting married, but it seems that he does not want to leave his house which was his marital residence and I don’t want to leave my house which was my marital residence (and neither of us wants to live in the other’s house). I suggested that, when we get married, we start fresh and buy a house together, but he says he’s hesitant to sell his house because of high real estate commissions. Sometimes I feel resentful that…

“I have been struggling for the last five years with feelings of jealousy and inadequacy when comparing myself to my sister-in-law.”

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Living with a Slob” who was a neat freak living with a messy boyfriend. She wrote: “I get that he’s busy, and I don’t mind doing the bigger half of housework since I’m the one who is more demanding of that stuff. But his total lack of consideration for picking up after himself is, quite frankly, disrespectful. I’m at a total loss. I don’t want to be hurtful. But I cannot live with messes everywhere. So what…

I was with my first serious boyfriend for just under a month. We broke up in 2011, but we have maintained a distanced cordial/friendly relationship over the years. While we were dating, there were times that he left his email logged in; I snooped and found that he was attempting to cheat on me with guys. He denies it, but I can’t be sure. Even before this I knew he wasn’t right. He’s recently told me all about his kinky relationship with his male Dom and how he’s given blowjobs to all of his Dom’s male friends – all while dating a girl seriously for at least two years. He seems to…

My boyfriend and I are both 19 have been together for two and a half years now. As soon as we met, I moved into his mom’s house with him. He’s the younger son and his mother is very loving. However, she and I both got off on the wrong foot in the beginning because she didn’t know me so well and I was living in her house. I am now six months pregnant and I’ve been feeling a lot of negative energy coming from my boyfriend’s mother lately. A few nights ago she was upset at something her son did and she took it out on me! She was threatening to…

I called things off with my ex-husband shortly after our son turned 1 in 2011. He was a self-centered egotistical JERK and had numerous affairs, although by his definition the whole sexting and hiding the seven other women was my being ridiculous and crazy. I filed separation papers and moved out with our two children. I would say that five months after that I knew for certain there was no chance of his ever changing. My friends set me up on a date with a mutual acquaintance — this amazing single father who is absolutely perfect in every way possible. I immediately saw myself growing old with him. We both decided to…

I have been with my partner for twenty-three years. We both work hard and have a lovely home. We got engaged two years ago and we’re due to be married. Unfortunately, when the time came to get financing for the wedding, it was refused. Naturally, my girlfriend was really upset and angry. Our sex life has not been great for a long time and we went through a phase when we both decided to really give it go, making our love life a bit more exciting. This lasted for a short while and fizzled out. She then started staying away quite regularly — once a week and then it became more frequent with…