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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 years. We both have children in their early 20s and in college. Mine is away at school and his live at home. We’ve discussed getting married, but it seems that he does not want to leave his house which was his marital residence and I don’t want to leave my house which was my marital residence (and neither of us wants to live in the other’s house). I suggested that, when we get married, we start fresh and buy a house together, but he says he’s hesitant to sell his house because of high real estate commissions. Sometimes I feel resentful that…

“I have been struggling for the last five years with feelings of jealousy and inadequacy when comparing myself to my sister-in-law.”

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Living with a Slob” who was a neat freak living with a messy boyfriend. She wrote: “I get that he’s busy, and I don’t mind doing the bigger half of housework since I’m the one who is more demanding of that stuff. But his total lack of consideration for picking up after himself is, quite frankly, disrespectful. I’m at a total loss. I don’t want to be hurtful. But I cannot live with messes everywhere. So what…

I was with my first serious boyfriend for just under a month. We broke up in 2011, but we have maintained a distanced cordial/friendly relationship over the years. While we were dating, there were times that he left his email logged in; I snooped and found that he was attempting to cheat on me with guys. He denies it, but I can’t be sure. Even before this I knew he wasn’t right. He’s recently told me all about his kinky relationship with his male Dom and how he’s given blowjobs to all of his Dom’s male friends – all while dating a girl seriously for at least two years. He seems to…

My boyfriend and I are both 19 have been together for two and a half years now. As soon as we met, I moved into his mom’s house with him. He’s the younger son and his mother is very loving. However, she and I both got off on the wrong foot in the beginning because she didn’t know me so well and I was living in her house. I am now six months pregnant and I’ve been feeling a lot of negative energy coming from my boyfriend’s mother lately. A few nights ago she was upset at something her son did and she took it out on me! She was threatening to…

I called things off with my ex-husband shortly after our son turned 1 in 2011. He was a self-centered egotistical JERK and had numerous affairs, although by his definition the whole sexting and hiding the seven other women was my being ridiculous and crazy. I filed separation papers and moved out with our two children. I would say that five months after that I knew for certain there was no chance of his ever changing. My friends set me up on a date with a mutual acquaintance — this amazing single father who is absolutely perfect in every way possible. I immediately saw myself growing old with him. We both decided to…

I have been with my partner for twenty-three years. We both work hard and have a lovely home. We got engaged two years ago and we’re due to be married. Unfortunately, when the time came to get financing for the wedding, it was refused. Naturally, my girlfriend was really upset and angry. Our sex life has not been great for a long time and we went through a phase when we both decided to really give it go, making our love life a bit more exciting. This lasted for a short while and fizzled out. She then started staying away quite regularly — once a week and then it became more frequent with…

I’m a 25-year-old woman dating and very much in love with my boyfriend of two and a half years. My boyfriend, “Jay” is physically disabled and is in his 40’s, which may alarm some people, but has never been in issue in either of our families. Jay’s mum moved in with Jay when he first bought his house many years ago, leaving her husband behind in their old house. After that, his sister (let’s call her Lu) also moved in with Jay. My issue is with his mother. Whilst she is capable of being nice at times, she’s also emotionally manipulative, controlling and paranoid. For instance, when Jay and I first got…

My partner and I have been together for two years. We met through an online dating site, and in the beginning of our relationship we asked each other the usual questions (“Have you ever been married?” “Do you have any children?” Etc.). We both said neither of us had ever been married before nor did we have any children. Fast forward to two months ago. I found out that my partner got married nine years earlier. It was up in Canada, and, as it was a same sex marriage and not recognized here in the U.S., she figured it was never a “real marriage.” My partner tells me she only married this…