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My closest friend has a history of hooking up with really rotten men who initially seem charming, into her and into her very quickly. She finally got rid of the last one a year or so ago (he was very bad news – stole from her, used hard drugs, had multiple women he was crashing with) and has been doing really well. Two months ago, at an event my boyfriend and I invited her to, she hooked up with a man 25 years her junior, and they’ve been inseparable ever since. As in: he spent the night at her place the night they hooked up and simply never went back to his…

My wife and I don’t get much leisurely sexy time because we have two children — a daughter, 14, and a son, 7 — and no nearby relatives to babysit. I suggested we get a hotel room for Valentine’s Day, but, since we don’t have a babysitter, we could only stay for about five hours, from about 6pm to 11pm. She wasn’t crazy about the idea. At first she said that it would feel too rushed and she wouldn’t be comfortable. After some discussion she said that if anything happened to the kids while we were gone she’d never be able to forgive herself. We feel comfortable leaving our kids alone for…

I’m a previous LW who has written in about infertility issues (and updated here and here). Here is the problem: I have a very close college friend whom I have known for almost 15 years. We were in each other’s weddings but now live in different cities (Philadelphia and Washington D.C.). She has known about my struggles and my miscarriages. We also used to visit each other once a year. Well, we went a few months without really talking and then, on Mothers Day, she announced on Facebook that she was pregnant. I was hurt that she didn’t email, call, or text me the news. She treated me like I was just…

I have been dating my boyfriend, “Mark,” for about 1.5 years, but we were friends/FWBs for about 1.5 years before that. We do not live together, but we spend every other weekend together. His 15-year-old daughter has had a best friend, Michelle, since 5th grade, and Mark has gotten to know Michelle’s whole family well. Before Mark and I started dating, when we were just in a FWB situation, I took my kids to a hockey game and Michelle’s family was there as well. I thought her mom, Dana, gave me some evil looks when she saw Mark come talk to me, but I dismissed that thought immediately as her husband was…