“My Husband Got Another Woman Pregnant”

While I was away at Army Basic Training, my now-husband and I decided to get married. His family planned the wedding. We had not been dating before I left for basic training — we had broken up months before, but after I left, we got back together and that’s when we made the decision to marry. I was injured and got out of the military, and the day I got home I found out that about two weeks before, my husband got drunk, had a one-night stand and got the woman pregnant. My husband’s family did the calculations of dates and said that the baby couldn’t possibly be his. I thought I…

His Take: “He Won’t Even Answer My Facebook Messages!”

His Take questions are answered by our panel of smart, opinionated, and funny dudes. I had this guy friend in high school and we could never date because we were always with other people. He went off to the Army and I went to college. Four years later now, we have been talking again. It started through email because he was gone in the Army. He came back for a month and we had a great time together and we agreed to date. His family has mentioned how much he talked about me while he was home. They act like he is obsessed with me. He even admitted how much he likes…

“Is My Friend an Unwitting Sugar Mama?”

My closest friend has a history of hooking up with really rotten men who initially seem charming, into her and into her very quickly. She finally got rid of the last one a year or so ago (he was very bad news – stole from her, used hard drugs, had multiple women he was crashing with) and has been doing really well. Two months ago, at an event my boyfriend and I invited her to, she hooked up with a man 25 years her junior, and they’ve been inseparable ever since. As in: he spent the night at her place the night they hooked up and simply never went back to his…

“My Wife Doesn’t Want Sexy Time on Valentine’s Day”

My wife and I don’t get much leisurely sexy time because we have two children — a daughter, 14, and a son, 7 — and no nearby relatives to babysit. I suggested we get a hotel room for Valentine’s Day, but, since we don’t have a babysitter, we could only stay for about five hours, from about 6pm to 11pm. She wasn’t crazy about the idea. At first she said that it would feel too rushed and she wouldn’t be comfortable. After some discussion she said that if anything happened to the kids while we were gone she’d never be able to forgive herself. We feel comfortable leaving our kids alone for…

“My Boyfriend’s Alcoholic Brother Won’t Leave Our Home”

A few months ago my boyfriend’s (much) older brother lost his wife, kids, job, and almost his life to his alcoholism. When he was released from the hospital, he was essentially homeless, so we agreed to take him in until he got back on his feet. The first month he lived here he was fairly quiet and even somewhat helpful around the house. He was going to AA meetings, applying for jobs, and going to job interviews, and he seemed to be on the right track. However, around Christmas time things started to change (I can’t be sure why, but I think it might have to do with him realizing that his…

His Take: “He Never Wants to Have Sex With Me”

His Take questions are answered by our panel of smart, opinionated, and funny dudes. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about two years now. We live together and get along great on a daily basis, but we have no romantic or intimate life. He was romantic when we first met, to win me over I guess, but now it’s like pulling teeth. He never wants to leave the house. He goes to the gym and is home all the time. I suggest things we can do, but there’s always an excuse. I found out part of the reason is from having social anxiety, but it’s still really difficult for me. He has…

Your Turn: “If He Loved Me, He’d Move for Me”

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. I’m taking a day off today to enjoy some down time with Drew, so I present this “Your Turn,” without commentary from me: I am in a serious long-distance relationship with someone I met in college. I moved back to my hometown, across the country, a year after we met,…

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