“My Girlfriend Refuses to Move in With Me”

I met my girlfriend a little over two years ago while she was interning with a forensic psychologist who frequents my precinct. I wasn’t a believer in love at first sight before, but I am now after meeting her. Despite what could be obstacles — I’m 34 and she’s 22; I’m white and she’s Black; and she lives about two hours away — our relationship has continued to flourish. She’s gorgeous, extremely smart, and personable. We’ve been through a lot together and I’ve been a better man in every way since meeting her. With all of that being said, you should understand why I’d be devastated to lose her. She recently received…

“My Friends Bailed on My Dinner Party”

My boyfriend and I had made plans to have three couples — his college friends and their girlfriends — over for a small dinner party on Halloween and to greet the trick-or-treaters. To prepare, I spent the better part of the day cooking and cleaning, and I was feeling very festive. Come 6:30 PM, only one of the couples had arrived, so we texted the other two to get an ETA. They both responded that they weren’t going to make it. I was so upset! It wasn’t as if this was a huge party; it was a small dinner party, and on top of that I had emailed everyone the day before…

Your Turn: “My Boyfriend of Six Years Says He Doesn’t Want to Marry Me”

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m in my late 20s and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six years now. Last year we moved to a different city together where we knew nobody. He was going to school and I was working. Once the school…

“My Boyfriends Keep Dumping Me For Their Exes!”

My boyfriend of nine months and I broke up a few weeks ago, and I’m pretty devastated. I was in love with him (and still am), but he said he didn’t see a future with me. It’s sad and heartbreaking, but I do know that it was the right thing to do if there was no future. As it turns out, two weeks after we broke up, he got back together with the girl he dated before me. They had been together for six years, and she broke his heart a few months before we started dating, but when we were together he assured me he was over her and only missed…

“My Life Lacks Purpose and Direction”

I’m a single, 27-year-old woman with a really great, full life. I have amazing family and friends whom I’m close to, both emotionally and geographically, an active social life that gets me out of the house a few days a week, and a great job that I’ve held for 5.5 years. I lived at home for college and moved around a bit afterwards, and then I bought a house when I was 25, where I now live alone with my cat. I’m generally really happy, but I did experience a bout of depression from the ages of 18-23, during which I felt hopeless. I finally got help in the form of medicine…

“I Think My Brand New Husband Abused His Daughter”

I recently married a man I went to high school with (I’m 48; he’s 52). We reconnected a year after he discovered his wife and mother of his daughter (who’s now 22) had been unfaithful throughout the entire course of their 22-year marriage with over 30 different men (my now-husband had a job that required travel four days each week). I moved across the US to be with him. Now, I am learning some very unsettling things about his daughter who lives with us. I worked in the public school system for 12 years, and this young woman is…well, something’s very wrong here and I am beginning to suspect abuse. I know…

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