“My Boyfriend’s Mother Keeps Bugging Us About Marriage and Babies”

I have been with my boyfriend for over two years now and his mother is pushing hard for a grandbaby. It came up again yesterday on Facebook when I commented on a friend’s baby’s picture. The friend then asked when my boyfriend and I would be having a baby (which rubbed me the wrong way as it is no one’s business). I made a joke about my dog being my baby and laughed it off because I’m not the type to rant on someone else’s wall about what is a seemingly innocent question. But then my boyfriend’s mom commented. Basic summary of comment: “You guys are my only hope. Tim and Jane…

Your Turn: “My Fiancée Sends Sexy Texts To Her Exes”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’ve been in a relationship with my fiancée for a year and engaged for six months. I was married once before, and my ex-wife was unfaithful three separate times with ex-lovers, which is why we divorced (two years ago). On my first date with my now-fiancée we talked of relationship expectations and I explained I had major reservations about keeping company with ex-lovers, whether it be talking, texting, or seeing one another. She said all the right things: “That’s not me, that’s wrong to do, I…

“My Sister Hates Me”

I’m 25 and my sister, “Julie,” is almost 20. Julie has always been difficult, but after our dad left five years ago, she started skipping school and getting underage piercings without permission. Around the time she stopped going to school and started sitting around doing nothing every day, she was prescribed anti-depressants. She eventually went back to school for the final few months of the year, but didn’t do well on her final exams. She did, however, get a year-long makeup artistry course in another city, and we all hoped she would find it rewarding and would be keen to get a job in the field. Mum supported her through the course,…

Quickies: “He Dumped Me But He Still Owes Me a Birthday Gift!”

My birthday was four months ago. At the time, my boyfriend gave me a picture of people skydiving as an I.O.U. for a skydiving trip (because he has always wanted to go), which he still hasn’t made good on. Last week he dumped me. As I walked out of his apartment, feeling pretty salty, I said “You owe me a skydiving trip.” We spoke yesterday to facilitate an exchange of borrowed books, clothes, etc. He said he wants to give me my birthday present. He was planning to just give me a gift certificate to a place, but he doesn’t want to get me something I won’t use and so he offered…

“I Regret Not Having a Baby With My Ex”

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of eight years, and though it was my decision to end things, I’m having a hard time deciding whether what I’m feeling is normal breakup sadness or regret. My boyfriend was my first real relationship (I had dated a lot before but never got serious with anyone) and my first love. He is older than I am and I was in my early/mid twenties when we got together. We come from different cultural backgrounds but had an amazing connection and talked about everything. Because I knew he loved kids, I was honest with him from the start that I never really saw myself becoming a…

Your Turn: “He Wants to Get Married Because He Needs a Place to Stay”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend of almost four years, “Joe,” has still no stable job, no car, no apartment, no college degree, no health benefits or retirement plans. He is 34 and rents a room in an elderly lady’s home. This has been his story since he finished his military career. At one point he claimed to be financially stable, but then the market crashed and he lost everything after 9/11. I feel like by now he should be better off. We met online when he lived in NYC…

“He Cheated on Her and I Wish I Didn’t Know!”

From the forums: I became friends with a girl about a year ago, and we have become pretty close since then. We see each other every week, talk about life and relationships, work out together, hang out, and what have you. A few months ago, her boyfriend broke up with her after a business trip. A month or so after this, one of his coworkers who I am close to told me that the ex had unprotected sex with a girl while he was on that trip. Now, the ex-boyfriend is trying to get back with my friend. He mentioned to my friend he’d been tested for STDs after they broke up…

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