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I am a 29-year-old woman who has found herself in a serious predicament. For the last four years I have not dated anyone due to how things turned out with the first man I loved. I decided to remain focused on raising my child and going to college to better myself so my son and I would have a more secure life. I am into gaming, and that is how I met this 18-year-old guy. There was something about him, and I could tell the first time we spoke that he is special. However, he was engaged to be married to another woman who was a year younger than I. Whatever happened…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. My boyfriend shows me the exact same affection as he does his 16- and 18-year-old daughters. He said that even though the affection is the same, with me there is a sexual connection. When we are watching a movie on the couch, he’s rubbing my leg as well as theirs….

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

I’m a graduate student in the sciences who was asked to present my work at a conference last month. The nature of my research and that of my co-student, let’s call him “Twerp,” is somewhat similar, so the organizers asked us to combine abstracts to present together. Twerp is also a few months senior, and because only one “presenting author” is allowed, I let him take the title out of generosity even though I am an equal contributor to the work. We presented our work at a session where the presenting author answers the questions of scientists passing through for a few hours. The night before our session, knowing the world to…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.