It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
I’m getting married in six months and am having some major drama with my future sister-in-law. I asked her to be a bridesmaid because it was important to my fiancé and because I wanted to strengthen my relationship with her (we have always been friendly, but not exactly close). Anyway, the drama started when she mentioned that she wanted her baby (who will be five months old) to be a ring bearer. We are already having her three-year-old daughter as our flower girl, and we had no intention of having any babies or really any other children at the wedding (including my own niece who will be six months old at the…
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Wishing for a Baby” who was depressed that she still hadn’t gotten pregnant after several months of trying. Keep reading to see how she and her husband are doing now.
In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I have had a passionate, whirlwind relationship for the last nine months. We do everything together, and, if he is not with me, he is with his brother and sister-in-law. When I first met them I noticed there were many sexual jokes between my boyfriend and his SIL, like my boyfriend accidentally getting her pregnant for child support, etc. He explained it as “their humor.” Even his brother would encourage the jokes. I expressed my discomfort, and he said it would stop. He…
“I’ve been dating “John” now for about a year. He’s one of the most amazing guys I’ve ever met, but we regularly we get into blow-out, all-day arguments.”
In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We live together and love each other so much, but, since our relationship started, I had to drop out of college due to coming down with an unknown illness which was later discovered to be a lactose intolerance. I also suffered from reactive depression which caused stress-related IBS. Through out all of this, my boyfriend has looked after me so well. My parents love him, my sister likes him, my mum’s side of the family loves him,…
“I’m pregnant. I don’t want to give the baby up, I’m heading into a career that will enable me to support myself and this baby, and abortion is definitely off the table.”
It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
My older sister is married to an abusive alcoholic asshole. She and I both grew up in a very conservative Christian household and neither of us have a close bond with our parents because they don’t like that we left home and formed our own adult lives that are very different from how we were raised. About 10 years ago, she moved 1500 miles away, met a guy, and got pregnant quickly. They both worked at a Christian school under a signed “morality clause” so they rushed to get married in an effort to not lose their jobs over the unplanned pregnancy. Well, they both got fired anyway and proceeded to have…
I would love to have a new column for you to read right now but the truth is I haven’t been receiving many letters lately that I find interesting enough to publish. I even went through my “hold” file, filled with several hundred letters I haven’t published and none of them spoke to me either. So I’m going to post a letter from a recent Savage Love column that reminded me of this letter from a couple months back. That will give you something to read and discuss for today, but please, if you have some drama in your life you want some insight on, email me! Bonus if your drama includes…
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