“The Bride’s Not in Love With Her Groom”

So, I am a bridesmaid in the wedding of my best friend, who lives about 900 miles away. A couple weeks ago I visited her to attend her bridal shower. I’ve known things weren’t going great in her relationship, but I didn’t realize how bad they really were. She told me that she loves her fiancé as a person, but she is not in love with him. What she’s known all along about him — that he lacks maturity, is extremely insecure, and is not motivated on the career front — really bothers her. And she feels like during their entire relationship he has held her back from new experiences. She has…

“My Boyfriend Was Not Invited to the Wedding!”

My boyfriend of 2.5 years was excluded from my best friend’s daughter’s wedding. My BFF & I have been BFFs for over 41 years; I’ve known the bride since birth and have been as close as an auntie could be without the biological gene. This is an out-of-town affair — out-of-country, actually since it’s in Canada — requiring approximately $1,500 in travel expense to me. Until I received the invite addressed only to me, I would have crawled there if I had to. The bride is precious to me, and, though I have met the groom only once, he seems a super guy; they are a wonderful couple. The mother of the…

“Do We Have To Invite Family to Our Elopement?”

I know I’ll catch a bit of heat for this, but my boyfriend and I have been engaged for two years now (I know, I know… just get married already!). We’ve faced some roadblocks and financial strains, but we’re finally at a point where we can have the wedding we want… which is to say, a Vegas elopement! I’ve never, ever wanted a big wedding (especially seeing all the stress and drama my sister’s 200+ guest list wedding this summer has created), and I like doing things a bit differently. My boyfriend had always wanted to get married in Vegas but figured he’d never be engaged to someone who would agree to…

“My Divorce is Final But Now My Boyfriend is Ignoring Me”

I’ve been dating my boyfriend, “Dan,” for about nine months now. Things are ok, but not nearly as good as they were in the beginning of our relationship. When I met him, he had just started working at my company under a different manager in my division. It wasn’t until months later, when we were on a project together, that I really started to get to know him. I was married at the time, but things were very unstable and I would have left my husband regardless. Dan and I met for drinks and hit it off instantly. He told me that was madly enamored since he met me but that he…

“He Can’t Decide If He Wants to Raise My Son!”

I am a 41-year-old divorced woman who has been dating a 44-year-old divorced man for five months. I have a 5-year-old from my last marriage and he has a 16-year-old and a 19-year-old from his last marriage. Since the beginning of our relationship, we have gotten along famously. We enjoy the same things, have an amazing sex life, are becoming best friends and everything seemed perfect…until a few nights ago. He was telling me he doesn’t know what he plans to do when his daughter goes off to college in two years and he sells his house. I mentioned we at that point, we could move in together, and he paused and…

“My Parents Treat Me Like a Baby”

I’m 19 and still live with my parents because I made the financially-sound decision to take my basic college courses at a community college instead of going away to a university. I am still taking a full course-load and also working part-time. I’m also dating a guy my dad loves and wants me to marry. My mom, who is really hormonal/monopausal and controlling and also somewhat ’empty nesting’ even though we are all still in the house, thinks my boyfriend is okay. Unfortunately, every time I want to go away with my boyfriend — even just on day trips — it’s always a big deal. At the same time, my brother, who…

“My Ex’s Daughter Keeps Tagging Me on Facebook”

You posted my letter in January, about whether I should contact my ex’s kids about a couple of items of theirs still in my possession. I have followed your secondary advice and the advice of some of the commenters, which was to do nothing. The book and the pants are still in my car, after almost four months, and it seems like it would be weird to send them now, but I also haven’t managed to make that decision final and get rid of them. Anyway, I actually have a follow-up question: I haven’t heard from my ex at all, and after four months I’m pretty confident that I won’t. I’m really…

Your Turn: “I’ve Been Sleeping With My Ex for Three Years and Can’t Move On”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am a 21-year-old female, and in the summer of my freshman year of college I got into this “relationship” with a guy who was kinda short and nerdy (he was in band) but really funny, and all was good until my parents forced me to transfer schools. I didn’t want to lose this guy, so I decided to have sex with him. In my mind I thought it would work because he was kind of lucky to be with me since I was “out of…

“I’m Addicted to Sexting Him”

A few months ago I Googled a guy I had awesome sex with 10 years ago. His Linkedin profile came up an I added him to my network, not thinking anything beyond his accepting the invite to connect would happen. He did accept, and after several emails catching each other up, he asked to share a picture so I sent him a few innocent pictures and he did the same. We kept emailing for a few more days. Then one day I took the initiative and sent him an innocent text message. We then texted until 4 AM, remembering the short-lived summer fling we had a decade ago. Ever since, we have…

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