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“He Doesn’t Want to Meet My Family”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two and a half months. I am 25 and he is 31. Just as we started dating he told me there was another woman in his life but he wanted me to be his girlfriend and so he was going to leave her, plus she didn’t mean anything to him, but he didn’t want to be rude by dumping her so suddenly. Later, I found out through him that he has a 13-year-old daughter — with yet another women. We broke up for a while, but then he begged me to get back together. He says it’s too early for either one of us…

“Can I Dump My Pregnant Friend?”

“Her behavior was already taking a toll on our friendship and this pregnancy and faux-happily-ever-after is just the icing on the cake.”

“Was it a Mistake To Start Dating Long Distance?”

“I have a guy best friend whom I’ve been friends with for the past year. We’re really close and talk all the time, and tell each other everything.”

Your Turn: “He Talks About Me to His Ex”

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I have been together for about six months, and apart from a few difficulties here and there he is a wonderful…

“My Boyfriend Spends Too Much Time With His Dad”

“My boyfriend and I are in our early thirties and have been dating for a little more than a year. He’s very close with his family, which initially I liked…”

“He Earns More But Wants to Split the Rent Equally”

“I’ve offered to put in $900/month OR 50% of whatever I make — whichever is more — and he’s reacting as though I’m trying to rob him blind.”

Your Turn: “I Want My Ex Back”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My first serious boyfriend and I broke up about two weeks ago (I’m 17 and he’s 19). He did it because he thought I was going to break up with him, but I wasn’t. I know that’s not a lie because that’s the reason he gave his best friend who later told me. I really loved him, and he led me to believe that he loved me too. The day after we broke up, he started dating this other girl, let’s call her “Rachael,” and it…

In Other Words: “My Husband is Sleeping With My Mother”

My sister sent me this recent WTF(!!) column from ELLE’s Ask E. Jean, who seems a little off her rocker, maybe? My mother is an attractive, interesting woman who reads ELLE and The Economist, dresses fashionably, and maintains a petite size 2 frame. Recently, I found out that my 39-year-old husband (of 14 years) has been having sex with her when he attends conferences at the resort near where she lives. When he told me, I was bothered by the fact that it didn’t bother me. He’s a wonderful man — father to our two children and a good provider — and he’s always taken care of me emotionally, sexually, and financially….

“Should I Confess My Feelings Even Though He Isn’t Single?”

“Over the summer, I started chatting with one of my future grad school classmates. We realized that, come fall semester, we would be neighbors…”

“Should I Tell My Boyfriend About My Debt?”

“My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years, and we fit each other perfectly. I feel like I can tell him anything, and I have…with one exception…”

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