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I’ve answered variations of this letter quite a few times already, so now I’ll let you guys tackle it: I grew up on the East Coast and moved to the West Coast for a two-year master’s program. It was there that I fell in love, and after almost a year of being with the greatest guy I moved with him to another part of the country where he was matched to be for his internal medicine residency program. We will be here for three years, and I have been here for six months so far. The problem is that nearly all my friends and family are on the East Coast, and I…

This letter is from a recent Dear Prudence column. It makes yesterday’s column from the woman whose young lover knocked up another woman seem mild.: My mind is still reeling. My fiancé confessed to me last week that his younger niece is actually his child. He had a short affair with his brother’s wife, who conceived the month her husband was away. They ended things just before finding out she was pregnant, and she lied about the dates to cover it up. My fiancé knew all this and said nothing because he didn’t want to break up their family. My fiancé’s brother is a good guy and I genuinely like him. I’ve…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 24, and immigrated from the Caribbean in 2001. In 2009 I married my boyfriend at the time so I could get my citizenship. We are no longer in a romantic relationship, but agreed to stay married until my citizenship goes through. We plan to get a divorce in about 6-7 months after the process is finished and carry on with our lives. This year I started dating this 27-year-old guy and it got pretty serious. We have been dating since May. The night we got…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss cyber dating and breaking up.